Allana's Thoughts on Porn

Allana's Thoughts on Porn

Having had an unexpected expansion in my coaching career
supporting men, I can shed light on what I’ve learned.
Men tell me they go for porn to get off. They don’t go
for heart connection, they don’t go to claim and ravish
a quality woman, they don’t go to share their fears,
they don’t go for an intimate conversation and connection,
they don’t go to enhance their nobility.
Some go to learn how to please a woman. God help us. This
is particularly sad as it’s all staged and acting.
Most men go to orgasm without having to be present, honoring,
grounded, kind, thoughtful or romantic. Most go without
having to take care of their health, live their purpose,
clean up their messes, without having to take responsibility
for anything… no growth required, just a credit card
and a Kleenex.
Thus while it gets the ‘job’ done, it doesn’t expand their
confidence, nobility, power or freedom in the world. If
anything it produces shame and unrealistic expectations.
Most are hesitant with asking for what they really want
in their relationships, afraid to share their sexual fantasies,
some are single and even afraid to approach women period.
Some are ashamed of their sexual drive, other’s are tired of
US being too tired for sex, and their precious brains are
being filled in most part by images of women being treated
like a piece of meat.
(I will say there are a few quite enlightened and erotic
films out there, and more in production that I will share
with you one day. AND I was the Host for several series with
a sex education company called Sinclair Institute. Great material.)
Porn in general has trained most men to get off, not to make love,
to hide not to show up, to squelch not communicate their needs and
desires, to see us as only bodies not as body, hearts and souls. Rarely
does porn depict a woman like a work of Art. I believe it teaches them
how we DON’T want to be touched.
So many of my female clients yearn to be claimed and
penetrated by a deep present heart centered man… unfulfilled
when he’s holding back, degraded when he treats her like
a piece of meat. Even those clients that enjoy dressing up,
living out fantasies or bondage say they STILL desire a
man who claims her body, her heart and her soul.
Frankly I believe porn destroys that capacity.
I’ve seen hidden porn watching destroy many a marriage.
I’ve seen many women devalue their worth trying to compete
with porn tricks and body parts.
AND yet I’m the Sexy Mom and LOVE sex when I can ride the
wave of dark to light energies while always staying heart
centered and consciously connected to my partner.
I’ve also interviewed Nina Hartley, walked through
her home, bedroom, closet and sex room and this woman and
I are aligned in our beliefs to do our OWN inner work first
and be authentic in our sexual relationships.
If you love porn, great.
Yet, if you’d like more conscious sexual tools to enhance
your relationship, then search for heart centered erotic
divine films where we are shown how to stay connected,
be authentic, share truths so as to let our edges
dissolve and experience erotic sensual timelessness and
sacred Union of All That Is with our Beloved.
Baow chica baow baow…
Deliciously,
Allana>

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