7 Things You Must Do for YOU After a Breakup, Part 5
5. Embrace Solo Sexuality with the Divine
Okay, here’s where I breathe through a wee veil of nervousness to tell you this. Good thing I’m writing this part from Minneapolis St. Paul airport with a beer, chips, salsa and guac, and a hockey game going on… I’m in my element!
How many of us have had sex just because we were horny, or because we were so lonely we just wanted touch, or right after a breakup to prove we still “had it?” Or at least you know someone who did that… (smile)
The first thing to acknowledge is that we’re sexual beings, and that’s not bad! That wonderful!
I mean look out the window, friends! Every bee, tree, and person got here through sex! Take away sex and it’s a barren land…
How could something so pleasurable and powerful be bad?
And yet when we’re newly broken up, things get a little muddy and we can fall into the trap that just sex alone is going to fill the void in our heart. And while it’s certainly a momentary high (pure genital copulation alone has never made me have lasting fulfillment)… And in fact, having booty calls now make me feel more empty than full.
And so what is a healthy, sexual, sensual person to do?
MAKE LOVE TO THE DIVINE.
Well, at least it’s what’s worked for me and manifested the most extraordinary man I’ve ever met.
I would self-pleasure and imagine I was making love with the Divine Masculine. I’ve counseled women to do the same, and men to self-pleasure to various flavors of the Divine Feminine…
I believe that ultimately there’s no one really out there anyway: that we are ONE and meet aspects of ourselves through relationships.
Thus, the sooner you start loving the man inside you, the woman inside you, your other half, to become ONE… Absolutely open in your authentic, sexual, sensual, sacred expression, the sooner you can experience it in the real world! At least that is EXACTLY what happened to me.
I am experiencing the fullness, richness, and diversity of sacred dark and light sexuality with my partner. And it’s as if he’s the space for me to have ME mirrored right back to me… and I keep expanding.
It’s exquisite. And I want that for you, for its own beauty. And it creates the space for an extraordinary relationship, when you’re ready to choose that.