Archive for Good Men Project

He Wants to Cut Me Off From More Kids!

Yet another amazing question from the wonderful men and woman at the Good Men Project.

Q: I want more children and my husband’s a vasectomy. Who has the power to make the final decision?

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Am I Getting the Brush-off?

A favorite from my Good Men Project series:

Q: I have been dating a great girl lately but she has been working late and she has not been returning my texts. When she does return my text she says she just got them but I know she carries her phone on her all the time. Is she giving me the brush off? What did I do wrong?

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Don’t Want to Hide My Friends

Q: Before I was married, all of my friends were male.  I don’t know – I just connect with the better.  That is how my husband and I met.  Now that we are married, he has an issue with my guy friends. His point of view – as long as he doesn’t know they exist, I can have them in my life. That just doesn’t seem right to me. I try to honor him by making sure all my friends are female but I don’t know if he is in the wrong telling me to hide it or if I should be ashamed for considering male friends?

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Turning it Off and On. When to be a Noble and when to be a Badass?

Q: Dear Allana, I am sure you are asked this question a lot but as a man, women are the toughest creatures to figure out! I feel on one hand, a woman wants a man that takes charge (knight in shining armor) but on the other hand, she wants a man who is sensitive to her needs, caring, and emotionally available. How do I find a balance between being her Noble Prince Charming and her best friend?

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Publicly Embarassed by Spouse. What now?

Q: What my husband did to me is beyond forgettable. He publicly humiliated me in front of our family and friends. A week later, he is asking for forgiveness and to come home. I can’t! I just can’t! What should I do?

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Can’t Pry my Wife Away from Kids for Intimacy

Q: Allana, my wife is incredible. She does so much for our family that I would love to do something for her. Unfortunately, I can’t pry her away from the kids long enough to spend an intimate, relaxing day out by herself. How can I convince her that she needs to take care of herself?

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