November 22, 2025 | by Allana Pratt

S13 | Intimate Conversations: The Sacred Art of Masculine Sexual Energy with ‪Dan Desena

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Dan DeSena is a transformational guide helping men achieve authentic growth. I asked Dan about his approach to teaching men about self-pleasure, sexual health, and emotional resilience. We spoke of the sacredness of sex as a spiritual practice, our personal experiences with energy-based orgasms.

Dan expanded on his journey from growing up in a religious family with restrictive views on sexuality to finding sacred sexuality work with John Wineland, which helped him integrate his masculinity and leadership qualities. He's learned to embrace his "darkness" and dominant energy while keeping his heart open, understanding that conscious women sense a man's true strength and authenticity. Dan emphasized that authentic leadership and dominance are not toxic when approached with love and awareness, and he now helps men navigate these aspects of their sexuality while maintaining emotional connection.

Dan emphasized the importance of presence and conscious awareness during sexual experience, explaining how many men are trained to feel shame or anxiety about self-pleasure from a young age, leading to negative patterns in their sexual experiences. Dan shared his own journey of retraining his nervous system to practice self-pleasure without relying on fantasy or porn, and he advised men to focus on subtle pleasure and to make conscious choices about when to ejaculate. He also discussed how learning to be present during self-pleasure can improve sexual experiences with partners, as women often desire emotional connection and presence rather than just physical performance.

As we discussed the sacredness of sex and the importance of treating it as a spiritual practice, Dan shared his experiences with cultivating sexual energy and having full-body orgasms, the concept of orgasm beyond ejaculation, and discussing how men can learn to control and direct their sexual energy.

It was so fun to explore hypothetical scenarios and share personal stories. On After The Show on Patreon, Dan revealed that his mother gave him a sex education talk when he was 10 years old, after he expressed admiration for Michael Jackson's song "Billie Jean." We danced and enjoyed our full self-expression and even got a taste of Dan demonstrating a full body orgasm on After the Show- a first! Dan explained the concept of a full-body orgasm, describing how to move energy through the body during sexual experiences. They agreed that presence and awareness are key to enjoying these experiences without losing connection with a partner. Discover more on Dan’s site DanDeSena.com.com

MORE ABOUT DAN: A respected guide in transformational work, Dan brings a grounded approach to personal mastery that resonates with men seeking authentic growth. Drawing from his rich background as a psychotherapist, musician, teacher, speaker, group leader, and healer, he creates brave spaces where men discover deeper confidence, purpose, and presence.

His work transcends surface-level development, addressing the foundational elements of masculine identity while challenging outdated notions that no longer serve us. With a passionate commitment to transforming how men think about sexuality, confidence, masculinity, success, and happiness, he offers a refreshingly honest perspective on what true fulfillment looks like. Through practical wisdom and transformative practices, he guides men to embrace emotional intelligence alongside inner strength. Known for his direct communication style and compassionate approach, he meets men exactly where they are no judgment, no shame tactics, just honest conversation and real tools for change. His philosophy centers on the belief that true confidence stems from self-mastery and emotional resilience. Participants in his programs consistently report profound shifts in their relationships, professional lives, and self-understanding.

Connect with Dan Desena:

Website: www.dandesena.com
Instagram: @dan_desena
TikTok: @dan.desena.coachi
YouTube: @SexualSelfMasteryforMen