S13 | Intimate Conversations: Sharing Power & Sacred Surrender with Bryan Reeves

Bryan shared his and his wife's experience of enduring 18 major life challenges in five years, many of these were ambiguous losses—grief over things never fully materialized.

We’ve both been Inspired by Michael Singer’s Surrender Experiment and Bryan reflected on surrendering to life’s challenges without giving up, choosing instead to fully engage with each moment, seeing surrender as the ultimate form of freedom.

I love learning about the complex dynamics of partnership with his wife, Silvy—balancing personal truths, holding space for differences, and learning how to share power in a relationship rather than dominate or withdraw.

In this deeply connected reunion of sorts in person in Austin, we also discussed...

-How much Bryan loves Silva! I asked him to describe qualities he appreciates about her—he lit up! He spoke of her warmth, humor, depth, and emotional availability—and three things that turn him on, from her sensuality to her emotional support.

-How Bryan openly owns his shortcomings—like struggling to offer the depth of emotional connection Silvy craves—and apologizes for past choices that unintentionally hurt her, including the decision to leave LA.

-How we both emphasized that true love and partnership are not about perfection, but about willingness to stay present in the messiness. We explored how real intimacy requires patience, compassion, and truth-telling.

-How Bryan’s guiding principle in his partnership with his wife is serving love, rather than ego.

-How I vulnerably opened up about my own struggles with being single, practicing self-care, and asking my staff for loving accountability—showing that intimacy begins with ourselves.

-This nearly yearly podcast swap between old friends ends with mutual appreciation, humor, and heartfelt acknowledgment of the growth they’ve witnessed in each other over 15 years.

-I’m so grateful for the depth and realness of our shared journey and we invite listeners to reflect and take meaningful action in their own lives… tiny hinges swing big door… you’d be amazed what consistent aligned action will create for your intimate relationships.

About Bryan Reeves:

A former US Air Force Captain, Bryan is now an international coach and blogger who's blogs, videos, online courses, and books have been experienced by over 30 million people in every country in the world (except North Korea apparently). He's worked and studied with the top spiritual teachers of our time, including Marianne Williamson, David Deida, Byron Katie, Eckhart Tolle, and others. With a Masters Degree in Human Relations, he now coaches men and women to creating thriving lives and relationships. Check out his amazing podcast, Men this Way! and his NEW BOOK: Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her)