I had the absolute privilege of being interviewed by Nijole Sparkis on her show “Healing Your Shadow Relationships”. She is such a walking goddess! I had so much fun answering her questions on overcoming shadows. Here are just some highlights of what to expect.
Shame can keep us from our full power. We can overcompensate or hide from shame to hide from who we are. But if we can embrace, allow, and dissolve all resistance, we’ll know the sacred sexual being that we are! Be who you are. I mean, really embody your life force energy. You feel the energy as us and through us as we type an email, talk to a friend, or make love. There’s no separating it. It’s who we are.
We think that sexual energy is just for copulation. That sexual energy that turns heads when you walk into a room is kindness, tenderness, care and presence, encouragement. Sexual energy is also creative energy like wanting to do interviews or write a book. Sexual energy is also kinky, wanting to eat and savor something that you normally might not think is appropriate. There are so many ways in life where you can exude your gratitude or appreciation in a sensual way. It can be very subtle but can allow you to have pleasure and be alive. Let’s just live!
How can you recognize that you’re coming from shadow or have a block in this area? Basically, you feel like shit. You arrive on the scene and you’re not yourself. You’re people pleasing, overcompensating. If there’s any hesitation, that’s it.
I used to think being vulnerable is scary and weak but it’s alive. How much intuition and light can we let in? When you’re vulnerable, you’re totally connected to earth. You have access to limitless knowledge. It’s intense. It’s the only way you can be seen. It takes courage and bravery to be vulnerable.
Tips I have for women and men with a block and how I walk them through their shadows. Women may not like to be alone. There’s a big difference between being lonely and being alone. Be connected to you and not just your friends and loved ones. Then is when you’ll know what you want to do. The answer for self-love, to be you and live a life that is in alignment with your beautiful soul is not in your mind, it’s found in your heart. Create the space so you can listen. And if you need support, (because as you go inside you’ll meet loneliness), having a coach on your way to hold space but believe in you, that balance is very effective.
Safe sanctuary is important for men. Some men have never felt that “head against breast” exhale. They need that part that’s wanted to be heard, acknowledge and celebrated to be put to rest. The next phase is to let them know that they better get off that couch and go because they’re a rock star! Once they’ve gotten calm and reconnected, they know what to do. Get them to the point that they are confidence itself, an embodiment that’s already inside. Last phase is a high five; celebrate them!
Again, I’m so grateful for Nijole Sparkis for allowing me to be a part of this wonderful event. You’ll have to watch the video to find out more about my experience in Japan and more. Juicy stuff! 😉