You asked Coach Allana Pratt: I love my girlfriends but they can be a little snarky at times, which drives me nuts. How can I keep my friendship but politely tell them to stop cutting me down?
Ask yourself this question: “Is cutting me down equal to friendship?” Not in my book! That is equal to abuse.
First, please know that I love you and that I care about you but I have to ask – Why are you ok with being treated unkindly by people?
I want you to take inventory of these people. Are they really your friends? I ask because sometimes we put up with crap because:
• We cannot deal with being with our own aloneness.
• We are afraid of being rejected.
• We don’t have a deep relationship with our own value and worth.
The absence of a deep relationship within ourselves prevents us from being able to “sit in the fire” and speak up – telling your friends that what is happening does not work for you and suggesting ways to change it, working on it together – having straight, authentic, vulnerable, intimate, honest conversations with one another.
By not being able to do this with ourselves, we are resisting our truth, resisting our hearts, spinning in our heads, doubting ourselves. If we haven’t become deeply intimately connected to us, it is impossible to be that connected with someone else.
This is an amazing question because it now makes it possible to have a deeper relationship with your worth, a richer relationship with your friends, and it could mean new friends. Yes, there may be a void as you transition from friends who dishonor you while you get to know people who do honor you. It will be an intense time but this will allow you to be in an Intimate Conversation with you and connect with you and grow.
If you are woman asking this question, I invite you to get my Radiance DVD Curriculum. It’s six weeks and consists of my curriculum, six interviews, and six dance practices.
This is a process, it isn’t going to take forever but it isn’t going to be a quick fix. I would love for you to go through this Curriculum and do all the exercise. You can even upgrade to two private sessions with me, at an amazing discount that only comes with my DVDs. It is exhilarating what comes up when we talk and I am there to heal it, and then you are good to go! If this resonates with you, or you find yourself hitting some walls (or keep hitting the same walls that have blocked you from moving forward in the past), reach out to me and we will do something about it.
If you are a man seeking answers, I invite you to the same opportunity but with my Dear Lover DVD Curriculum. I would love for you to do the upgrade to the two private sessions because there is an inner part of you that needs to be healed and listened to so you can have relationships and friendships in your life in a way that honors you, respects you, and celebrates you for the magnificent person that you are.
Let me support you in the very same journey I have gone through and the same journey many of my clients have gone through. You can do this.
All my love,