Single Moms-Get Your Groove Back in 4 Easy Steps
Anyone remember the movie “Stella Got Her Groove Back” from 1998? It starred Angela Basset and was all about a 40-something single mom stuck in a rut. Her friend convinced her to take a trip to Jamaica for some much-deserved “me time.” Stella met a very handsome 20-something man (Taye Diggs!) and boy did she get her groove back. Well, not everyone has the money or time to go to Jamaica – and it’s not very likely that we’ll hook up with Taye Diggs either, so I’ve put together these 4 steps to help you get your groove back.
1.Boogie Down! Once the kids are asleep, put on your favorite tunes – find the songs that make you really want to groove. Don’t have any cool CD’s except the Wiggles? Then, go to Pandora, a free online radio site and create your personal channel selecting artists that make you want to shake your booty. Then dance, dance, dance to release all the stress of the day, any self judgments and commit to love yourself exactly as you are. Dance because you’re alive, because you’re a mom, a lover, a woman. Dance as if being single was the best thing that ever happened to you!! You’ll feel energized, sexy and renewed.
2. Shop ‘Til You Drop: Get creative – you may not have the extra cash to buy new, but someone else’s “old” can be your new favorite outfit. Trade clothes with a friend, browse local thrift shops, or organize a clothes swap with your mom’s group. Do it now, don’t wait until you lose those last few pounds. It’s time to feel good about you TODAY! Why would you withhold loving yourself? Stop resisting and let your own beauty shine today!
3. Outsource! Outsource is the new buzzword, and it’s not just for business anymore. You can’t do everything by yourself, get some help. Remember, your time is valuable and worth a lot – treat time as one of your most important commodities. When you spend an hour grocery shopping, that’s an hour lost spending time with the kids or on nourishing you. So, shop for groceries online, use a dry-cleaning delivery service, hire the kid next door to maintain your lawn, look at all of the items on your to-do list and think of ways to enlist some much deserved support. Even if it frees up 2 hours a week – that’s 2 hours that you can use as sacred time to nourish your soul, to heal, to find your power again.
4. Let Go! Don’t beat yourself up – you didn’t do anything wrong to become a single mom. You did your very best and still are doing your best, so forgive yourself. Don’t dwell on negatives. Turn the lessons you learned into gifts. You are wiser, more confident and know what you want and need to make you truly happy. So, hold your head up high, open up that heart, and remind yourself what you’re grateful for. Think about starting a gratitude journal, write down at least one thing every day that you are truly grateful for; a lesson you’ve learned, the sun shining, your smiling child. Then remember that you are worthy of love and support because you are YOU!!
Alright Mom’s I’m challenging you to take action today and be like Stella, and go get your groove back! Then, come back and share your grooving experiences!>