Archive for Motherhood

Feelings about Artificial Insemination?

Q:  Allana, I am not having any luck with men and I will be 40 in a few years. I feel as if the window is closing for babies. How do you feel about artificial insemination.

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Son’s Asking about Absent Father is Heartbreaking

Q:  Allana, I am trying so hard to be strong for my child but every time my little boy asks me about his father (who isn’t in the picture), my heart breaks. What do I say to him? Why is he asking so much many questions about a person he has never met?

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4 Year Old Driving Me Nuts!

Q: Allana, I am going to lose it with my almost 4 year old. I’m a single mom and he is pushing my boundaries to the point that they might break. Everything is a fight, everything is a debate, everything is an issue. He’s my only and this might be normal but between his attitude and my stress at work, I am…I don’t even know anymore.

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Kids Stress Me So Much, I’m Losing My Hair!


Question: Dearest Allana, I find myself constantly losing patience with my kids. I am so stressed all the time that my hair is starting to come out. It may be that they are getting older, it may be that we are having financial trouble, all I know is I am getting worried. What can I do?

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My sister and I couldn’t be any more different if we tried.


Question: My sister and I couldn’t be any more different if we tried. It was never a big deal until we both became mothers. She had her son first and now that mine is about 3 (her son is 5) – she feels the need to critique my methods of parenting. I don’t know if she is just trying to be the wiser older sister and believes she knows best because her son is older than mine but I think she is a terrible mom. I look at her son and pity the victim he will be when he gets older because she shelters him from everything. Is there a way to tell her thanks but keep your opinions to yourself?

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How can I take care of my child and be intimate with my husband?

Question: My husband and I are the proud parents of a beautiful little girl. She is my world. I don’t know what I would do without her. I can’t seem to do anything without thinking about her, worrying about her, and wanting to make sure she is ok. I am consumed by her. I know that I can’t seem to do anything about it, which is starting to cause problems in the intimacy department. I don’t want to have sex because I feel I won’t be able to get to her if she needs me. I might not hear her. I sleep in the nursery every night because I am so worried about her. My husband is trying to be understanding but I know that his patience is wearing thin.
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