Q: Allana, when the cat is away the mouse likes to play. When my husband is away, I hook up with my ex-boyfriend. I know it is wrong but I just can’t stop doing it. I have tried to cut him off but the sex with my husband is mediocre and the sex with my ex is mind-blowing. I have heard of the 80/20 solution and I feel this is it. Together I have 100% of what I want but if I get with one or the other I am miserable. What should I do?