3 Tips to Spice Things Up
After two divorces you’d think I’d give up and get 10 cats and be a hermit…NO! I know that I deserve true love and true passion and I’m more committed than ever to opening my heart, jumping into the unknown with unbridled passion for Truth and Love. And between you and me, I think the third time’s the charm! I didn’t give up, I knew the man of my dreams who could truly fulfill me was out there and Guess What? I found him! He’s everything I’ve been searching for AND MORE!
If you’re on a quest to find your man or you are in a relationship that needs a jump-start, enjoy these tools that will help you have flourishing families and thriving relationships. They’ve worked for my clients so I know they’ll work for you too!
1. Guy Time
Women- give him a break! You both need “me time” so you can appreciate one another more fully. Be glad he’s out of your hair for a bit and enjoy the night to yourself. Fill yourself up in ways that nourish your Spirit from the inside out. When your man wants his guy-time, if you have any feelings of abandonment, or rejection, don’t blame him. Think of the time as gift – your own personal quiet time to reflect on why your heart is closing so you can feel the feelings you have been repressing. Let your feelings surface with compassion for yourself, let them dissolve and see what wise lesson grace your consciousness. Fill the void with self love, self care and pleasure from the inside out. Intend to feel the pleasure of simply being a sensual woman. Allow the old neediness to transform into healthy heartfelt yearning for your beloved, flooding your open heart.
2. Girl Time
Women- Nothing in this world can replace a great group of women, women that hear you, see you, love you and will tell you the truth. Aren’t you jealous of the fab relationships the women from Sex & the City enjoy? Surround yourself with women that are positive, that support you and care for you. Find a Miranda, Charlotte, and Samantha and enjoy great relationships. Let go of any time spent with women who gossip, man bash, compete or complain… life is too short to spend your precious downtime with people that bring you down. Do a girlfriend review – after you have a phone call, lunch or Girls’ Night Out how do you feel? Are you depleted or nourished? Did you feel heard? Did you relax to your core and not have to work to get a word in? Did you feel reminded of your worth for being exactly who you are? Spend regular time with Goddesses who remind you of your worth and celebrate a sensual existence.
3. The Modern Way to Dance for Him
Pole-dancing classes are all the rage – seems everyone is doing it. Celebrities like Cindy Crawford, Kate Hudson and Jessica Alba do it and even Oprah had a pole dancing segment on her show!
All this talk got me thinking about my experiences with sexy dancing. One day, when my first husband was working from home I thought I’d surprise him with a little naughty dancing. Imagine my surprise when he shooed me away saying he way too busy. Really? Ouch! Being one that isn’t deterred easily, I tried it again with my second husband. I did a strip-tease and he got so nervous and fidgety I felt sorry for him and certainly not sexy – strike two! Common denominator – me.
Since I thought it was me, I figured I should take a class. So off to the pole-dancing studio I went. By the end of the second class I was in tears. Yep, that’s right, crying at a pole-dancing studio. I realized that in my own little box I was comfortable being sexy but any expression outside of that made me feel ashamed and scared of being judged and rejected. I learned that I because I was uncomfortable I was attracting men who were also uncomfortable with their sexuality – a true light bulb moment!
You’ll be happy to hear to I’ve met a new man who LOVES my dancing which makes me really enjoy it and feel free to express my coyness, my inner nasty girl as well as my goddess, my queen, my sacred feminine spirit
GO FOR IT! Dance for him, yet first dance for you and come to peace with exactly who you are. Perfectly imperfect. Whole and Complete. Glorious, Luscious You.