Tired of Body Shaming
Q: I am 27 years old and very confident of my appearance, or so I thought. I am petite (which many guys love) but am lacking two asset areas – top and bottom (plain and simple – I don’t have boobs. I don’t have a butt). I am tall so most people have told me I could model but my boyfriend lately has been making little comments that are killing my self-esteem. I know he loves me but when a woman with large breast or a big butt walks by – he nearly snaps his neck to look at them. If I say something, he just says “Men like to look at other woman and it doesn’t mean anything honey”. He will mention that if I ate more or did chest presses or squats (he is a gym-enthusiast) that maybe things could maybe change. Is this healthy criticism or should I just put a stop to it now and walk away?
A: The body – there is always something to look in the mirror and hate. It is a choice. There is also something to look in the mirror that you can love – it is a choice. The main thing for you is to see the gift that you boyfriend is presenting, the opportunity of choice – are you going to allow your determination and self love be controlled by his behaviors or your own?
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