Q: Allana, I’m in a sexless marriage as well. Those who have not experienced it, please do not trivialize it. You’re right Allana, it’s poor advice to tell someone to just talk to friends about something they may not understand. We live in a world where everyone treats relationships as disposable. That said, I have not even sorted out my own marriage but I do think the next step is to seek spiritual, professional, counseling – such as someone like yourself. People who are experiencing this should seek advice from someone who is currently there, someone who isn’t going to trivialize it or tell you to appreciate everything else instead of sex. I don’t want to hear from one person who can not relate. This is extremely frustrating.
A: I hear you. Thank you for commenting on someone else’s situation but let me ask you, is it going to help your situation? I can empathize with your frustration, but notice where you attention is – it is outside instead of inside out. You are not a choice, you are just spinning. We need to work on creating something that works for our own life.
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