My Answer for you Precious Sister….You Are NOT a Dirty Rag!
Question for Allana:
How does one turn it all back on after being tossed away like a dirty rag, how does one get a sex drive back. I feel so numb no urge to even want to have sex but I lost the attraction to my partner when he introduced an older woman into our lives then find out they are cyber sexing together. Our relationship is lost now he doesn’t want to know, even though he was in the wrong committed adultery, but how do you start over again with someone new?
Allana’s Answer for you precious sister:
I am so grateful for the privilege of supporting you in such a deep rich intense time of your life.
So it seems there’s been a conceptual threesome? “Bringing an older woman into your life? Did you first say OK only to find it didn’t work for you? Or was this found out by you, never agreed upon?
Many times we say yes to something sexual in fear of losing our partner if we say no or seeming prude or being made wrong. I get it. Please forgive yourself and know you did your best. Now it’s time to tell you truth about that.
And your truth about the cyber sexing. So was that agreed upon? Did you find out about it and it was a secret behind your back?
Question- are you still with this man who in your words “tossed (you) away like a dirty rag?” If so, why? What’s he contributing to your life besides abuse? If not, are you wondering how to stop feeling numb and feel alive again in a NEW relationship?
Well after a betrayal, often we shut down, literally leave our bodies and spin in our mind, numb as you say, questioning our worth, wondering if we’ll ever find love again. This is normal and yet isn’t going to help anything.
What helps is stopping all the internal self-abuse.
What helps is stopping all the external blame.
What helps is stopping all the thinking about the past.
What helps is stopping the avoidance of your truth.
What helps is stopping the hiding of your true voice.
What helps is starting to see what’s good about you.
What helps is starting to see what doesn’t work for you.
What helps is starting to make choices for joy and peace.
What helps is starting to remember what you love about life.
What helps is starting to take regular time to build your potency.
What helps is committing to be treated like the queen that you ARE.
Other’s opinions don’t matter when you KNOW who you are.
Other’s justification or unwillingness to take responsibility doesn’t drive you crazy, you just MOVE ON.
You are NOT a dirty rag unless you believe it.
Choose to know that magnificence of which you are to see yourself as God does, as the trees do, let the sunshine nourish you back to confidence.
Let my plethora of products and my inexpensive membership be the healing balm for your life.
Choose toward the LIGHT and leave the dark precious sister.
I am here.
Great love, Allana>