Feel the Guilt and Get a Pedicure Anyway
One of the first feelings for me that came up when I started to take care of myself was a feeling of shame, feeling of guilt. Who am I to take care of myself first when there is laundry to do, dishes to do, dinners to be made and having this family that I truly wanted to have?
I had to start saying, “I am willing to feel this shame and this guilt right now”. I am going to go take a bath, just for half an hour, and my son can watch a video. He will be fine. A half hour with a video while I pamper myself in the tub is not going to ruin him for life.
Tonight we are going to get take out. I am not going to make dinner tonight. The cook is calling in a ME day.
Before you were wife, before you were mom, you were you. You are still you. Be willing to be a little uncomfortable as you begin the journey to being the part of who you were before you became a wife and a mom. It’s possible to be everyone that you are without neglecting any part of you.>