New Moms Find Your Inner Hot Mama!
Do you ever wonder who you are? After becoming a Mom – which is the absolute greatest gift I’ve received – I started to forget about me. I wasn’t sure who I was anymore. Was I a mom, a wife, a career woman or a machine that feeds her family and forgets her soul? Have you ever had one of those days when you just give, give, give and forget to relax and refuel?
I don’t know about you but when I forget about me, and don’t take the time to tend to myself, I get awfully crabby and short. I started to feel like a victim and blame everyone around me for anything that’s going wrong. I won’t even tell you what my ex-husband would say I acted like back then, starts with a “B” and ends with an “itch.”
Back when I was a new Mom and there was no paycheck coming in because my husband decided to quit his job the day after our son was born (thank you so much for that!), I was so overwhelmed and felt completely worthless. I would have no sleep, be changing diapers and feeding all day, cleaning up the house, cooking meals and basically doing everything with no help. I felt completely taken for granted, worthless, envious of everyone around me and totally ignored. When my son was only six weeks old, I had to get away and checked myself into a hotel for 2 nights. It wasn’t a party, well maybe a pity party since I didn’t leave the room and just slept and cried.
My whole childhood I watched my Mom sacrifice herself to be the caretaker of my drug abusing alcoholic father. So the only behaviors I knew were to do for others. I never learned to take care of ME. I certainly never even heard of nourishing my soul. I figured if I was focusing on me that I was neglecting my family and being selfish and that I was must be a complete failure as a wife and a mother.
Guess what? I found out the hard way that not taking care of me was the part where I was failing. Feeling so bad about myself every day, being sad and angry did not make for a very happy marriage. So, I found myself somewhere I thought I would never be, alone. A single Mom when my son was only 1 year old. I then felt myself continuing to feel bad and also having these horrible waves of jealously. If I would see a smartly dressed thin woman I would want to puke! I would feel like a total loser when I would overhear a wife talking to her husband on her phone, I would feel like they were so lucky and I was just a failure. What a great way to go through life – not!
So I realized this jealously and victim attitude had to change. So instead of being envious and hating these women I decided to use them as my role models. I allowed them to show me the way.
It was amazing how this simple mind shift put everything into perspective. I woke up and realized if they can have it all, then I could too. I began to see the light and understand that I deserved to be happy, to be sexy to live a fulfilling and sensual life. I didn’t want to be like my Mom and never know what a satisfying life was life.
So, to all you hot Mama’s out there – THANK YOU! You woke me up! You inspired me! You helped me see myself in new ways. You helped me be FREE!
Okay, I admit it, I’m not perfect, I still have work to do, but I’m on the right road. Yes, I still have moments when I’m not thrilled with my body, but hey I can accept it now. I busted out and took exotic dance classes so I could really get in tune with my sexy side. As for my ex, well I made peace there too. I’ll admit it that at first I wished him pain, but I couldn’t go through life holding a grudge. Now, I don’t pray for his death, I pray for his happiness so he can be blissful and a great dad for our son. I’m actually thrilled that he met a wonderful woman and that our son has a fantastic Step-Mom, more love for my son is the greatest gift of all.
I walked the tough road and now it’s my joy to share what I’ve learned with other Moms. I don’t want you to have to experience the pain; I want you to see how you can change your viewpoint to be a happier, more energetic and sensual Mom. You can be one of those Hot Mama’s and live a full and nourishing life that your kids will want to emulate when they are older. You just need to believe you deserve it.
So, ladies, do one thing differently today. Take 5 extra minutes to do something that makes you feel pretty, move your body, ask for help, be silly with the kids, pull out that sexy lingerie and enjoy life on your terms. Most importantly breathe. Life is good ladies!