Major life changes- when you choose them, or they happen to you
by Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert and Relationship Coach
I wish this article was requested in a few months as I feel a life change brewing!!! I have a glorious new man and we are talking about living together, potentially moving, even living in two places… many work opportunities are also brewing, which could mean a move… this time reminds me of the energy that was percolating when I moved to LA, 22 years ago, yet little did I know LA wouldn’t work out and I’d move to Tokyo for 4 years! I can now sense the energy is shifting and I ‘think’ it might be a move for work or relationship… yet perhaps something totally out of left field is around the corner!
This humorously humbles me, reminding me I’m at choice, yet I’m not in control.
I do believe we can CHOOSE major life changes by asking…
What else is possible here?
What’s possible if beyond anything I ever dreamed possible?
If I could have anything I want, what would I choose?
What would really turn me on, to be experiencing right now?
If more options were available to me right now, what would I choose?
This way of thinking opens you up to more possibilities and let’s the Universe start to co-create with you. You don’t need to furrow your brow and work hard figuring it out, more of a light hearted wondrous energy is helpful… soften your edges and begin to day dream in the shower and let what’s brewing percolate. Let go of the reins and let the Universe do the driving, a bit, until it’s time for you to take an action that feels AMAZING!
Regardless I CAN tell you about two major life changes, one that came upon me and one my friend proactively chose.
For me, having my best friend die and my mom die, those were changes that came upon my life… unwanted of course… yet I took the invitation to embrace them. The first honestly prepared me for the second, reminding myself to ride the wave of shock, disbelief, anger, negotiation, acceptance and peace. Whenever something you don’t plan pummels you off your center, shock is quite natural and the following sadness, anger or fear that may follow, also quite normal. Soon for me I noticed a life raft of questioning… what’s RIGHT about this I’m not seeing… what’s the gift here… why is this the next element to add to the petri dish of my life to create the most fabulous result? And even to imagine I CHOSE this for my greatest unfolding… you can’t rush this… yet as soon as I sank into these questions, it was as if I reconnected with God, no longer felt punished or disowned and could begin to integrate the growth.
My friend Tara and her husband took a more proactive approach. Neither were fired up about life, their marriage etc. and instead of destroying their marriage, they individually and collectively asked what’s missing here, what’s possible, what’s my truth, what’s available here that we’re not seeing… in the end they felt ignited by the idea of traveling the world with their 3 kids, writing, exploring, home schooling, becoming a global citizen… so they sold their house, he quit his job, they cashed in whatever funds necessary to take off and live this dream. It’s been 4 months and even the kids are feeling like they may never return to the old way of being… already exploring, living half the year in one part of the world, the other half traveling around. They each have one suitcase. That’s it. The kids have become more creative, the daughter is writing a series of novels! They’re not tourists, they really sink into the culture. I’ve never seen my girlfriend more vibrant, relaxed and alive. Like she’s deeper in each direction… centeredness and full self-expression. All that was important has shifted. Quite the major life change, yes?
I’m not saying any of us need to make a change like this to live fully… I’m simply saying that when the authentic juice for life is waning, take the time to look within and listen to the whisper. I have noticed when we don’t, life does it FOR us!
So whether you’re experiencing or choosing a major life change, know you have everything you need to succeed and who you’ll become along the journey is what it’s all about… creating the space for your untapped capacities to unfold with deliciousness.
Should you like support through a change or if you’re looking for guidance to make a change, I have less and less availability for coaching these days as I choose to move into more television, webisodes, interviews and also proactive motherhood and being devoted to my man’s legacy… so if you are truly ready to transform and experience the alchemy I provide to heal, reveal and soar into the next dimension, I would absolutely love to hear from you.
Contact my staff hereand let’s talk about what program is the perfect fit for you.
And in the meantime, remember you have the potency and knowing to choose what’s right for you, YOUR truth, and create the life you choose. I believe in you and love you to pieces, deliciously, Allana>