3 Tips to Be a Patient Mom
Every find yourself being short with your little ones for no “good” reason? You come home from work after a long day, you had a fight with your boss, one of your colleagues missed another deadline, someone else took credit for your work and now you’re home and all you want to do is jump into a relaxing bath, have a glass of wine and tune out the world? OR…is it Sunday morning and after a week of only getting five hours of sleep a night, your angels wake up at 5am demanding attention?
Yikes! I’ve been there and know how you feel, I use to find myself thinking, “Leave Me Alone!!!!” I’ve learned that I can’t just retreat, and certainly don’t want to take out my lack of sleep or annoying boss on my kids, so just like I do when it comes to work, I reviewed my processes and developed new ones to make things run smoothly.
Here are my top 3 solutions to help you get some space and have your little ones love you even more:
1. Teach Kids to Respect “Mom Time” – my son knows he has to wait until “Seven Zero Zero” to wake me up because I am finding Patience and Kindness for him. This empowers him to help me while I use my bath time, workout time, meditation time as sacred Fill Me Up time. It also teaches him important life lessons that he will use when he becomes a Dad, plus teaches him some great relationship tips!
2. Stay in the Present During Your Kids Melt Down Moments – I know YOUR kids don’t have melt-downs 😉 But, just in case they do, take a moment to see things from their perspective. They don’t have all the coping tools you do, nor do they understand that acting out won’t really help – they really all little bundles of emotion. Think about it, if you weren’t an adult wouldn’t you just love to have a temper-tantrum sometimes? It is important to hold them accountable for their actions and teach them how to respond better in the future. Don’t play the blame-game – it’s not the schools fault your child acted out. Also, don’t make a mountain out of a mole-hill. As parents we have a tendency to take one problem and worry that this will keep happening, or there’s something “really” wrong, or that your child won’t be able to cope in the future, and so on and so on. That worrying certainly isn’t productive; you can’t What If your life away. Stay in the moment, heart open and breathe.
3. Let Go of your To-Do list – Does it really matter if you finish the laundry today? Do you have to clean the house tonight? Look at your list and think about what really matters, then attend to those tasks and THEN show up fully listening, fully present. Half Present parents create Half Present experiences, Half Present kid’s behavior, and Half Present fulfillment for all. Be a fully present parent and you’ll be amazed at the effect on everyone.
Use these tips to be a more patient, worry-free and present parent. Then, sit back, relax and enjoy your kids.>