Intimate Conversations- Highlights with Ross Rosenberg
This week on Intimate Conversations, Ross Rosenberg, author of The Human Magnet Syndrome, joined me and I am happy to announce I have a fantastic therapist on my speed dial now! Seriously, Ross is so great at explaining the attraction between co-dependents and narcissists which leads to those toxic relationships we just can’t seem to pull out of. I totally get how it works! You know the saying, been there-done that…..
Ross talked about the structure and manipulators behind the basis of his Book and really broke it down to show the cycle and, more importantly, he talked about how what it looks like when we are on the road to a healthier self and promises of better relationships in our journey.
We dug deep and talked about our past marriages and shared intimate moments about our sons. Our talk really opened a door for me, as I hope it does for you. If you have someone you care about that can also benefit from this conversation, please don’t hesitate to share it with them.
Since the first romantic kiss, men and women have been magnetically and irresistibly drawn into romantic relationships, not so much by what they see, feel and think, but more by an invisible and irresistible force. When caretaking, selfless, and reflexively giving people (codependents) romantically encounter selfish, self-centered and narcissistic (emotional manipulators) individuals, the result is a magnetic and seductive “love force,” it begins like a fairy-tale, but later unfolds into a painful “seesaw” of love/pain and hope/disappointment. The soul mate of the codependent’s dreams becomes the emotional manipulator of his/her nightmares.
Ross Rosenberg’s new book, “The Human Magnet Syndrome, Why We Love People Who Hurt Us,” is a breakthrough manual on dysfunctional relationships. Rosenberg explains why some people have satisfying and mutually satisfying romantic relationship and why others do not. His book approaches dysfunctional relationships from a distinctly innovative and intuitive angle. Rosenberg explain the elusive truth about dysfunctional relationships: opposite dysfunctional personality types are irresistibly drawn into romantic relationships, not so much by what they see, feel and think, but more by an invisible and irresistible magnetic-like force. Perfectly matched “human magnets” are bound together despite personal and emotional consequences.
Ross A. Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a successful psychotherapist, codependency and sex addiction expert, counseling agency owner, in-demand seminar speaker, and author of this new book — which is published by Premier Publishing & Media, Eau Claire, WI. To write “The Human Magnet Syndrome,” Rosenberg, tapped into 25 years’ experience working with codependent clientele, as well as his own personal transformative journey.
Rosenberg says, “Powerful and predictable – though largely unconscious – forces drive our relationship choices. You can fall victim to them or you can change them. He believes that it is possible to break the cycle of dysfunctional romantic relationships with people who hurt us. The new book provides practical and clear information to help the reader better understand why they are attracted to and maintain romantic relationships with people who habitually hurt them.
The Continuum of Self Theory
In his book, “The Human Magnet Syndrome,” Rosenberg introduces the Continuum of Self Theory, which visually and numerically represents the magnetic attraction forces that bring together codependents and emotional manipulators. His unique and revolutionary theory describes and even quantifies these compelling forces. Using a simple 11-point scale, Rosenberg, captures the ironic dysfunctional balance of the codependents/emotional manipulator relationship
Rosenberg says that when codependents and emotional manipulators meet, they are “magnetically” attracted to each other. Tragically, they believe they’re perfectly meeting each other’s needs, when, in fact, they end up supporting each other’s dysfunction and feeding each other’s problematic personalities and patterns. The “soul mate” of their dreams becomes the “cell mate” of their nightmares.
By understanding and applying the Human Magnet Syndrome and the Continuum of Self Theory, it is possible for a person to grasp the psychological forces that keep them locked in their dysfunctional romantic relationships. Rosenberg uses historical and literary figures, along with real life clinical examples, to illustrate the Human Magnet Syndrome and the Continuum of Self Theory. Plus, he demonstrates how individual and couples therapy can lead to beneficial changes.