Women who have successfully rebuilt their lives after divorce.

Women who have successfully rebuilt their lives after divorce.

My mom told me to turn off the blinking sign above my head. What sign? The neon one blinking FAILURE.
As a single mother, twice divorced and in demand, relationship coach helping global clients successfully rebuild their lives after divorce, I know personally and professionally what it takes to bounce back.
Step one is to get a quality professional loving mentor. Your friends and family are well intended, yet steeped in opinions and clouded by emotions your divorce is bringing up for them.
Step two is to feel everything you haven’t given yourself permission to feel… anger, rage, sadness, fear… even the numbness is a feeling… what you resist persists and what you face will shift…
Now don’t ACT on these feelings… yet if you want to SAY you’d LIKE to kick him off a cliff doused in gasoline aflame… SAY it… get it out! This doesn’t have to be pretty! And you don’t broadcast this, you just get it out. Sit in the fire and feel it all.
Step 3 is to thank the stars you had this magnificent lesson that you WILL learn from and celebrate your growth! Did you not speak your truth? Settle on your values? Ignore your intuition? Embrace forgiveness? Increase your-self-worth? Know you’re unstoppable and limitless able to create anything you choose?
Step 4 is to fall madly in love with YOU. Everything you’ve learned, now live it. Honor yourself, celebrate your uniqueness, speak your truth, listen to your intuition, dance naked under the moon, and travel to St. Bart’s on your own, wear a leopard thong! Be authentic YOU!
Step 5 is to, when you’re ready from fullness (not empty from neediness) CHOSE to welcome a partner to contribute to your life. Enjoy getting clear on what you choose, enjoy your fullness; put into action all your new awareness into partnering…
And be grateful for it all… the caterpillar stage, that big dark squishy cocoon (yes that too) and your soaring… for EACH stage was necessary and sacred for this very precious moment of now. You are a gift. Always have been, are now, and always will be. I Promise.>

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