What is your sexy factor going to be for this year?
If you were to say to the Sexy part of you, “Hey Girl!! Hey Sexy Factor! How are you? What would make this year the most joyful, fulfilling, orgasmically precious and over the moon delicious for you?”
She might say, I need you to shave my legs.
She might say, I just want to sleep.
She might say, I am tired of attracting unavailable men.
She might say, I can get a date, but no one wants to claim me as their girlfriend or wife.
She might say, I want to finally stop hating my body.
She might say, I want to save my relationship before he leaves me.
She might say, I am ready to let go of my shame and really be who I am and shine.
She might say, I want attention yet I’m afraid of what to do with all the attention, will I be safe?
I could go on and on (and I did a pretty good job of already going on and on) because I speak with women all day every day about these very desires… yet until it shifts from desire to actual commitment. Actual choice, actual willingness to do something about it… it just stays a nice fantasy for one day… someday…
Many woman say, What if I try and fail? Then I’ll know I really AM a loser so if I don’t try, I never have to risk rejection.
And I agree. Yes, you’re guaranteeing being alone forever. Being at war with yourself forever. Being unfulfilled forever. That’s totally a valid choice.
I’m not going to bullshit you like other programs who guarantees you will meet your soul mate- I can’t control you, control him or control life.
Yet the ONLY WAY… and let me repeat… the ONLY WAY you will EVER have what you want… is if you create the space to HAVE IT. You have to choose it. You have to step up to receive it. You have to leave your safe (aka lonely) harbor and venture into the unknown. You have to start seeing the unknown as a delicious mystery and get a handle on your fear based thoughts (which create exactly what you’re afraid of if you haven’t noticed) AND you have to take 100 responsibilities that IF YOU COULD HAVE DONE IT ON YOUR OWN, YOU WOULD HAVE BY NOW.
That’s not to say you’re a dumb ass! You’re just the opposite! You’re too brilliant for your own good, relying only on one source of energy, inspiration, strategy and plan to create your results, which has probably worked in other areas. Yet if you’re like me, in the area of body, sex, intimacy and relationships… I courageously boldly brilliantly said I GIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I surrender!!!!!!!!!!
I choose support.
Because no matter what… I’m having him. I’m having joy. I’m having love for my body. I’m having peace with my erotic nature. I’m having it all.
Then I showed up and did the work.
And it surprised me… it was FUN! Granted there were intense moments, but I felt AMAZING because I wasn’t hiding anymore, I wasn’t a victim anymore, I wasn’t letting life happen to me. I was in charge. I was at the helm. I was creating my life. And my coach had my back. I couldn’t fail. OK maybe I didn’t meet him that month, yet I was CLEAR I was a catch, I was out there meeting men, and I was having fun being alive and getting tons of attention which felt great.
Choose your sexy factor this year.
I love you either way.
Yet make no mistake, if you don’t choose it, and take action to support that choice to guarantee it’s fruition… it will stay a nice idea, a fantasy and it will be all the harder to say YES next year.. Soar into my arms and say YES this year. Choose the program that works for you. Just choose YOU.
Deliciously yours, Allana