How Does Super Woman Catch a Man?
Question: I’m a single mother of two beautiful girls. I have an awesome job and own my own home. So why is it hard for a man to take interest in me? I don’t want to keep carrying this load alone. What can I do to show that I’m supermom, but not superwoman?
Answer: Wow. You are amazing. Congratulations for creating an awesome job and home for you and your girls. Isn’t it wild that being a successful mom immediately puts you in the superwoman category, as if you don’t require support from a man? Yet, being a victim and struggling financially would make you needy to a man, which is also not attractive. Talk about a double bind!
So GREAT QUESTION gorgeous! The way I see it, you are ready for some high level soul evolution and the emergence of your true feminine power. True feminine power is allowing, and receiving. There is a strength in your softness, a potency in your vulnerability, and a willingness to know you can do something yourself, yet coming from the overflow, graciously gifting your radiance in appreciation to a man to contribute to you.
If you begrudgingly ‘carry the load alone,’ then your crunchiness isn’t attractive. If you pretend it’s no big thing, than he has no way to win with you and passes you for another whom he can be the hero. So, what would you have to do differently to let him know you can totally open the door yourself, yet he’d literally be your hero if he would open it for you?
How could you look at him? Could you soften your gaze? Could you open your heart? Could you be vulnerable and let him in? Could you risk slowing down to let him pick up the slack? Could you shower him with your gratitude? Could you let him take the lead, even though you know damn well where you’re going?
It’s the sweetest surrender, to let go without really letting go, but more like allowing someone to touch your heart while it’s already touched in entirety by yourself. Accepting his kindness, support, love, money and seeing what it’s like to live from the overflow. Letting him know how GRATEFUL you are to experience life from the overflow, like REALLY humbly grateful to be able to exhale all the way into his arms, to really love a man who can protect you and hold you safe.
Let him know that. Let him in. Let him exalt you and you exalt him. True vulnerability, a heart wide open, unable to be hurt, able to discover worlds beyond yours now of richness, exquisiteness only possible because you’ve gone it alone for so long, and only possible because you appreciate the smallest thing he does with your entire Soul.
You will say this with your eyes, your words, your touch. You will say this in the tone of your voice, the sway of your hips, the willingness to hold his gaze, or to listen to his story for the 10th time as if it was the 1st.
You can do this. And if surrendering this much terrifies you, you’re on the right track my sister. And I’m right there with you. Call me if you’d like a partner in the dark as you cultivate your feminine essence while having blind faith in his arrival. I call it coaching, healing, unconditionally loving you, having your back, believing in you when you are wobbly. It’s the most exquisite gift and privilege to love you, until you rest into his arms.
Looking forward to hearing from you, great love, boundless belief in your dream,