Single Women Competition

Single Women Competition

Navigating life as a single woman is a slippery slope. Being single can quickly unleash feelings of loneliness, self doubt and cranky competition.
Insecure single women will chose an ugly friend, use her for someone to talk to until they snag a man to assuage her neediness and give her attention.
Low self esteem single women will even pick apart their best friend’s new love interest for fear the friend might be proven ‘fairest of them all’…first.
Lonely single women may fall into the trap of thinking they’re not enough unless they have a man, unable to sit in the fire and source their worthiness from within… unwilling to wake up, heal their hearts and alchemize their painful life lessons into self esteem.
And yet society promotes a belief that there isn’t enough to go around, that you need to compete to get the guy, to freak out if you’re single and over 30, you’ve somehow missed the boat and may be stranded on Defective Damsel in Distress Island forever.
Media promotes valuing external factors to get the guy which contributes to eating disorders, beliefs that thinner, blonder and younger is better. We looove to watch competitive bachelorettes turn into bridezilla’s.
Let’s face it. It’s not sexy to do the mature internal work to become asecure,conscious, awake and high self esteem woman. It takes meditation, personal growth and healing childhood wounds to truly celebrate her sister’s relationship, to trust there’s enough for everyone, to live knowing Love is Infinite experiencing the fullness and harmony of Self Love.
Yet it’s worth it. Low self esteem always attracts low self esteem, a man who will eventually cheat, betray or leave you. High self esteem always attracts high self esteem, a man who will honor, adore and cherish you… complemented by attracting high self esteem girlfriends who support, listen to and celebrate your ups and downs along the delicious journey of being a woman.
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