How to Attract, Keep & Grow with that Special Man
1. Heal from the last guy
I get it. He betrayed you; lied, cheated, abandoned you, didn’t honor, let alone celebrate you. And it hurts. And it should. Yet a wounded heart is a closed heart, and you think you’re safe not letting a man in, yet in fact, your closed heart is cutting off your intuition, instinct and wisdom, so you’re likely to get hurt again, and potentially worse. Much smarter to heal your heart, reconnect to your discernment, get clear on your worth and attract a quality man.
2. Don’t impress… Magnetize
Men are impressed with your job, your accomplishments, your money, your success. Yet that’s not what makes them want to date you or marry you. They want to feel better around you, know they can bring you pleasure and happiness, that there’s space for them. No need to hide your success, just know it’s the authentic feminine confident YOU he’s attracted to. Think of yourself like a magnet bringing him into your heart. Seriously that’s what makes them weak in the knees! A confident woman, who loves life, knows what she wants and is kind and fun to be around.
3. Let him Win!
I can’t tell you how many male clients complain about this. She’s a man in a dress! She won’t let me open a door, pay a bill, make a decision. Men, who don’t get a chance to win, will go elsewhere. Women who are gracious, grateful, appreciative and radiant when he leads… these women have a flood of men wanting to be with them for it FUELS the man to be around her. He wants to make you happy and a woman who invites him to please her, he will keep showing up to please her.
4. Give him space
Good men use their freedom well. I’m going to repeat that. Good men use their freedom well. Not so good men ought to send a chill up your spine, feel like fingers down a chalkboard when you spend time with them. They don’t value you. Move on. Good men make your shoulders relax, your belly soften and flush your cheeks. Trust them. Give them space. Say, enjoy the weekend with the boys, really, I’m hanging with my friends, see you next week! Needy women push men away. Confident women are on his mind all weekend… you’re a catch. Own it!
5. Practice Juiciness
You probably are familiar with feeling cranky, bitchy, and unappreciated. That’s NOT juicy. Hormonally your estrogen, cortisol and thyroid are probably off. Now, I’m sure you’ve felt alive, vibrant, happy, and beautiful before, yes? Well, that’s juicy! Like a fresh mango, not a dried prune. Men looove it when we’re juicy. It literally wakes them up and keeps them attentive. When we dry up, so does our radiance, self-esteem and capacity to notice he took the garbage out (vs. left the toilet seat up, again). Just between you and me, to keep your man, be juicy.>