Dating again after Divorce, Am I Ready?
Question: My husband and I divorced after 8 years of marriage. It’s been 2 years now. How do I move on and prepare myself to love again?
Answer: Glorious sister, that’s a great question and one that honestly is case by case. Some women are totally ready. In their two years they have gone through various stages of grief from denial to anger to renegotiating to acceptance… healing, growth in self, learning from what didn’t work, reconnection to the sacredness of their sexuality and bodies, gotten in shape, even shifted friends or jobs to reflect their deepest truth and calling, truly looked at all areas of their lives and made sure that they were thriving, nourished and happy being who they are, alone and in communion with the Divine and honoring of who they are at their core.
And then there are some who still get out the voodoo doll of their ex with a bottle of gin and tell war stories about the bastard.
Most are somewhere in the middle. Many still have to be in communication with their ex when children are involved which again leaves women someone on the spectrum of abused victim to solidly moving on no matter what he says or does.
If we were to look at your divorce as a gift meant to support your evolution, then where are you on the scale of your soul’s growth?
On a scale of 1 to 10 how much do you forgive him? you? God?
On a scale of 1 to 10 how much do you love yourself alone, love your thighs, love your life?
On a scale of 1 to 10 how clear are you with what top 3 qualities in a partner would really contribute to your life, and what top 3 qualities of yours you’d love to contribute to your partner?
How about sexuality? Your body? Your desires? Your communication skills in asking for what you desire? Your ability to stay centered when you really fall for a guy, or when he royally pisses you off?
I don’t know how much your divorce cost, but mine was over $250K and so spending some money on healing your heart, awakening your Goddess, getting clear on how to date online and offline, how to affair proof a relationship and keep the sizzle and soul connection growing… those are GREAT investments before jumping back into the game so you date efficiently, elegantly, effectively and with ease, grace and JOY!
Dating can be WAY fun when you’re full and overflowing with self love, acceptance and the capacity to be hear your intuition and feel safe in your vulnerability. And dating can be way NOT fun when you’re still not over your heart wounds of the past. Let me know where you are on these scales I provided. It you’re pretty much a 9 or 10, then let me slap that cute ass of yours and wish you well as you get out there dating! If they’re any less, then what smart successful women I coach do, is call me and awaken their sexy radiance to get great results fast. I’d LOVE to hear from you either way!!! Contract my firstname.lastname@example.org and let’s see what’s possible if you’re a fit for my program. Quite often having a safe, honoring, non judgmental unconditioanlly loving relationship with me, your coach, is the magic template required to prepare you for Him.