7 Things You Must Do for YOU After a Breakup, Part 4
4. Alchemize the Loneliness into Lusciousness
After a breakup, don’t you just miss someone to talk to? Someone to touch? Sad but true, that sometimes even the fighting is better than total silence and aloneness, right? Sad but true, sometimes we settle and start dating someone new just to fill the void rather than truly being interested in them, yes? Loneliness can eat us alive.
I remember my times of loneliness, how I first ran from it, stayed busy, overworked, volunteered, filled every waking second with something to keep my mind off of how I’d feel all alone. I’d even stay up until midnight working or reading just to avoid acknowledging being alone. In bed. Only one side warm. Alone.
I remember the Dr. Seuss book my mom gave me,Oh, the Places You’ll Go! “Alone is something you’ll be quite a lot.” It’s true. In life, rarely are we with people 24/7. Alone is part of the gig.
If you can embrace being alone, the loneliness can shift.
If you avoid and resist being alone, the loneliness makes you its slave.
This is probably the biggest gift I can give my clients: to stop avoiding being alone, for in being alone, you can find you, you find God. You find eternity. Life force energy that flows in you, as you, through you.
You find that your inner world goes on forever, as far reaching inward as the Universe stretches outward.
You stop resisting your own company and become quite fond of yourself.
You make peace with your demons and invite them all to dinner.
And your alone time shifts from lonely to luscious. You begin to crave time to simply be, to listen, to connect.
You allow the ebbs and flows of life: alone time, people time… You trust the process.
And this of course dissolves all neediness, and makes you sexy as hell. Nice bonus.
And it’s great to have someone show you the way, hold space as you feel, be the banks of the river for you while you get your footing. A loving guide like me.