7 Things You Must Do for YOU After a Breakup, Part 3
3. Alchemize the Pain into Potency
So I have to admit I’ve done the breaking up most of my life. I am a woman on a path of consciousness awakening, always willing to sit in the fire, courageous and willing to face my challenges, that I tend to outgrow my partners.
And yet I have been broken up with, I’ve been betrayed, I’ve been lied to, let down and left.
And every time I’ve improved in my capacity to dissolve the denial or fake “I’m fine, really” and go through the fire to rise as a phoenix from the flame, stronger, more aware and more self-loving.
And the most efficient growth has always been with a coach, one of the reasons I became a coach to support people. That pain is unavoidable, yet suffering is a choice… And I choose a delicious life. Period.
So in the painful experience is a seed of potential growth. When my most meaningful relationship ended and he left me… I learned that I was living in denial the whole time, hoping it would turn into a long term relationship when all along is was great for the time, yet he was never open, committed, or behaving in any way ready for long term step-father life with me and my boy. Yet I didn’t want to see that. I wanted to hope in blindness, which led to a painful breakup when left alone.
The lesson I learned was that having the courage to do my work to be aware NOW would allow me to make wise, discerning and intuitively sound choices with who I would let into my world.
I learned I needed a professional coach and a community of sisters and brothers who were willing to tell me the truth even if I didn’t want to hear it.
I also learned that after some time, in a casual play date way, that my son’s reading of character is spot on and to trust him as well.
I learned that my pain held gems of growth that, when mined, would gift me with a feminine power that makes me feel secure from the inside out, no matter what he chooses to do or not do, say or not say, be or not be… No matter what – I’m okay.
And this is priceless for me.
And I can be the catalyst for this gift for you, as your coach.
Let’s dance, my love… All your potency is waiting.