5 Pleasure Practices to Stop Attacking and Start Adoring your Body
By Intimacy Expert (yes, In To Me, I See… In To Me, You See… pretty cool, eh?) Allana Pratt
1. STOP THE ABUSE
One of the most potent keys to shift from being self-abusive to self-adoring of the body you have… is first to imagine your body is like a puppy… have you been abusing, ignoring, yelling at it? Depriving it of kindness or tender touch? Imagine how a puppy would start to whimper, its eyes all droopy and sad, hesitant to trust you… so would you be willing to call a truce and begin to nourish your relationship with your cute little puppy body? Cool. First, when you talk to yourself in the mirror each morning, instead of looking for wrinkles or trying to be as beautiful as other women… say to yourself, Good Morning you Hot Fabulous Glorious Diva!
2. LUSCIOUS LINGERIE
I have to admit that when I used to battle with my body, I wouldn’t adorn it with lovely lingerie. The very first thing that touched my body would reek of the abusive words, dressing my %$&# belly with old tattered lingerie, symbolically scorning her. Now I wear beautiful intimates that make me feel amazing whether from Target or La Perla… I choose to first embrace my precious body with lace, satin, cotton and tender loving care. Will you?
3. SHAKE YOUR BOOTIE
During my coaching series, I invite women to get out of their spinning controlling minds and instead embody their softness and feminine power by dancing to one song a day in the am that makes them feel incredible. My son and I love dancing on the coffee table to Reggae, ‘One Love’, or if he’s at his Dads I’ll pump Teistro ‘Can You Feel Me’ on my iPod, close my eyes, move my hips wider than usual, release all control and let the music have its way with me, by the end I’ve got my mojo back, and lovin’ my body.
4. DON’T COMPARE, PRAISE
I’m sure all of us have been jealous of other women’s bodies at some point. Yet, given there will always be someone thinner or younger, what value is there in comparing? Your body feels so judged! Thus I began this practice back when I modeled and felt insecure. I began to praise other women- Nice purse, great hair, that color is stunning on you! When we judge, we lock in SELF judgment. When we give praise, we begin to praise ourselves AND receive complements with ease. Is your body feeling happier?
5. MAKE NICE
Lastly, I love how soft yet also fiercely strong we women are… and so I challenge women who are ready to end body dismorphia forever, to look in the mirror and to an area they normally judge and just say ‘Hi, It’s me. I’m sorry for judging you. I’m un-creating that behavior now. Instead I’m choosing to see you, accept you and eventually love you just as you are. I will do something good for you. Every day.’
I asked Leeza to do this when I coached her through DWTS… her thighs soon thanked her and slimmed down with relative ease, regular exercise and ravishing daily praise. As within, so without. Be patient, consistent and dedicated to your phenomenal body, just as you would that sweet innocent puppy… and your body image and body shape will soon shift. Promise.
Deliciously yours, Allana
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