What is Marital Depression?
What is Marital Depression? As an Intimacy Expert and Relationship Coach for the almost two decades, Marital Depression strikes when you think getting married will solve long standing unhealed emotional issues. External circumstances have changed, but internal wounds are still there. Boiling unexpressed anger feels like depression. What’s the truth you’re not sharing?
How can it be avoided? Never think a man, a woman, a job, a bank account or a smaller butt is going to make you have lasting joy, peace and power. Only a solid relationship of honor, trust and gratitude for exactly who you are (and who you aren’t) will make you feel unstoppable and happy for no reason.
What are your tips for keeping the spark alive? Spark comes from seeing your partner fresh, with appreciation and openness to how things could get better and better? Be generous, be kind, be kinky, be YOU! Think, “What can I do to contribute to my joy and my partner’s joy today?” Remember, you’re not together to control each other, you’re there to ADD to one another’s lives!
What are realistic expectations of a marriage? Honestly (not the popular answer) what’s good will get better and what’s bad will get worse. It’s like a catalyst for you to shine and grow and expand as a Soul. Problems are a GOOD sign! It’s time to stop denying or blaming and sit in the fire to do some deep emotional work and reap the benefits of a thriving self-esteem and flourishing marriage.
What should you do if you feel you may have marital depression? Depression is usually a sign of unexpressed anger which is NOT healthy to spew at your partner. I counsel couples privately and together, simultaneously, so they take total responsibility for their own issues and come together to heal, reconnect and deepen their marriage on solid ground.>