Mike I Adore You…..Here is My Answer!
Mike’s Question for Allana from herMen’s Group:
So one for the group and hopefully you too Allana Pratt. We talk a lot about choice and what we are having. I have heard the expression “attraction is not a choice.” Agree or Disagree?
Allana’s Delicious Answer:
OOOhhhhh… delicious Mike- I adore you and adore this question!!! I would say there is a very unconscious way to live, where our insecurities or filling the void that was never met in childhood, is running the show and we’re attracted to people who will ultimately not honor us (my first and second marriages!)
Yet once we bring consciousness, awareness, responsibility and CHOICE into the equation, we can literally CHOOSE a person who will honor us, cherish us, celebrate us, expand us, support us, grow with us and more… then I believe you let it go and let the Universe have its way with you!
Mike in my younger days I was attracted to men who judged me… and if I could get them to like me, love me, choose me… well then I was enough! You know how THAT story went. Now, I am actually turned on by a sexy man who cares for me, is kind, tender, thoughtful… someone in the past I might have thought was just a nice guy.
Now the lesson for YOU in who you’re being… is to KEEP the wonderful kind man you are… AND be willing for the sexual nature, your orgasmic energy, your potency to show up as well. Walk right up. Be grounded. Say, Hi. You lit up the room. Can I take you for dinner? (Or the next meal given what time you walked up to her).
Knowing what you want is sexy. Knowing what you choose is sexy. Being aware of who/what you are attracted to… is a compensation or strategy from wounds, or it is WOW… this person is super kind and super-hot. And all the work you’ve done Mike, with me, with others… your knowing of who you are is SUPER sexy. On our Having it All calls, the women were like HOT!!!!!!!!!!!! You are showing up differently and I honor your journey. xoxooxxo A>