MEN: How to unleash your sexual power
Now let’s be clear. I’m a woman telling you, a man, how to unleash your sexual power. What the hell could I possibly know about that? Nothing really… just what it’s like to witness you… what it’s like for me to surrender to you when you are ALL of you.
I just spent a day with Penny Slinger, amazing erotic artist and tantric teacher, and we spoke of the different men in our lives over time. And what energy, actions, being’ness brought out the best in us. While we were both attracted to strong men, what truly opened our hearts, allowed us to splay open wider than we knew possible, was a man whose sexual energy went beyond the traditional definition of sex.
Sexual energy that included the way he gazed at us with honor and desire… the way his touch respected our innocence and our naughtiness, the way his voice penetrated our heart wide open, the way he embraced his dark and light and thus could hold space for our dark and light.
A big part of the turn on for me is a man who need not control me or the situation to be totally in control… it’s like he’s ready for anything and will respond immediately… yet he’s relaxed, lose, open and grounded in the waiting… he has a slight tease or smile, a welcoming of bliss and joy knowing he can handle anything… including me.
Now HOW do YOU unleash that? Choose to BE and express all of you. The minute you notice yourself holding back, trying to think about how to do it right, how to get the result you want, how to manipulate the outcome, look good, be praised… whatever… any time you leave the moment and try to figure it out… YOU are gone.
It’s like a road and you create unnecessary speed bumps… choose to dissolve them and just ACT… JUMP… BE YOU… express… go with the flow… show up… shake off the should’s and just speak your truth. If that terrifies the crap out of you (it did me for quite some time) let’s do some healing work of the wounds inside that aren’t connected to the courage boldness and sexiness that you truly are already.
You will practice BEING all of you with me, who is completely non judging, unconditionally loving and celebratory of every aspect of you!! Then notice how much easier it is to be YOU out in the world, and if people don’t like it… they’re not your people my friend!
A healed heart can easily connect with your divine mind and your erotic pelvis… remember the key to expressing and running your full sexual energy is that glorious heart of yours. Move on boldly, with humor. Great love, Allana>