How to get grounded for men
Loved this question from… was it Mr. Charles on YouTube? About spinning 99% of the time, and how to get grounded as a man with women, with Life!
I find when men aren’t present, they’ve been triggered by a situation where in the past they were rejected, where they have heard stories from others about being made wrong, that remind them of when they were fully themselves and judged by another. AKA in the Past.
It’s as if one’s whole body goes into fight or flight, contracts in attempt to protect, palms can get sweaty, mind races, words are no where to be found, or at least intelligent words. I’m not a Dr. and yet even the movie “What The Bleep Do We Know” shows how our body goes into panic and all our resources are used to survive.
What I adore about my private coaching sessions is the grace and magic that occurs when I hold space for my male clients to just BE with this reaction. I am profoundly moved by a call, just last week, with a man I’ll call Kevin, who KNEW (cuz he’s so damn smart) that he won’t die, he is a good man and worthy of love… yet he was unable to be himself when a moment got intimate or vulnerable with a women.
I could hear in his voice the frustration, the disappointment, the exasperation with the situation… and here is the key… he’s in judgment of himself… a younger him inside, who wakes up every day not being enough, in hopes of getting it right and getting big Kevin’s approval… yet because this younger him inside has been judged by big Kevin for soooo long… he’s timid, not fully in his power, quite depleted and hesitant… ready for the next blow from big Kevin…
SOOOO who does big Kevin show up as with women? Yup. Little Kevin.
So what’s the solution.
You may not like it.
But it’s the key to your freedom.
To allow Little Kevin to be scared, timid or hesitant… and still love him… just as he is… forever…. even if he NEVER changes.
What? Yes… you may have heard of unconditional love. That’s it… for yourSELF.
Magically, and only if you really mean it.. if you really mean you’ll love this part of yourself even if it never changes… will it begin to trust you again, gain it’s strength and one day, if together you choose… you’ll change together… and experience a wholeness, a coming home, an intimate relationship with yourself… that is the ONLY WAY you can ever experience it with another…
oooooohhhh… and when you do!!!!!! YUM. True intimacy. Divine connection. Vulnerable exquisite bliss. The inner communion you have with you… you will have with LIFE and you can share with a beloved.
I would adore holding space for you like I did with Big and Little Kevin and hundreds of other men just like you. You’ll know if we’re a match when we connect. All you have to do is join my amazingMen’s Membership and you get a complementary 30 minute session, which will no doubt change your life forever.
What a privilege to meet you ‘both’ and hold space to faciliate the communion you’ve been waiting for.
Great love, Allana>