From Dave, a Facebook member, "what if she's not interested…”
Question from Dave: Thanks for the help given thus far, you guys are awesome.
This time I’ve got a new situation I’m curious about. What to do when a girl says she isn’t looking for anything, yet shows signs of liking you?
I know this is one of the obvious ones ‘nothing you can do’, but I really like this girl and am gutted I won’t see her again when I leave my job next week unless I find a way to keep in touch (i.e a number, she hasn’t got Facebook). I understand she’s not looking for a relationship and I respect that, I’d happily be patient IF I wasn’t working on a deadline.
SO question is: How to convince her I genuinely just want her in my life once i leave, no pressure about things happening in the future until she’s ready, without plunging straight into the ‘friend zone’ and destroying my chance to ‘claim’ her when we’re both ready?
Dave, Allana Banana here… fresh off the boat from a week at the cabin in BC… got your message… thought I’d blog to you!
Here’s my straight question to you love, why are you attracted to someone who isn’t attracted to you in the way you choose? Why would you set yourself up for abuse? If she says she’s not interested, then listen to her. Chasing her makes you needy and unattractive. Have some faith in the Universe that if YOU are ready for a relationship than at least 1 in the over 3 billion women on the planet will be ready too. Say to the Universe- Thank You for this woman for I like a, b, and c about her… now please bring me one with those who ALSO is ready for a relationship! And if for some reason she truly is the one… she’ll be back. But not if you’re pining for her… only if you’re off enjoying your life!
Trying to convince someone to like you or stay in touch with you is completely needy and setting yourself up to fail. If anyone, male or female wants to be your friend, they will act in alignment with that, caring for you, contributing to you and you to them. If they don’t, they aren’t interested in you love. That doesn’t mean ANYTHING is wrong with you whatsoever! Just that it’s not a match! Work with the living! Be open to women who DO care for you and ARE interested in you and let it be fun, easy, yummy and expansive to the next level of intimacy!
Let go of her, be open to HER and enjoy the process in the meantime. Be gentle with your own discomfort and welcome the inner capacity that’s waiting to burst through for you…perhaps patience, perhaps confidence in your worth… perhaps trust in the Universe… and if you need support, join my Men’s Membership and get your cute butt on the calls twice a month so someone has your back during the transition.
GREAT LOVE ALLANA XO>