Friends with Benefits
As an Intimacy Expert, the long-term outcomes of “friends with benefits” completely depend on where a woman is in her decision to find ‘the one’.
Men go through times when their career is #1 and so do women. During times when she’s not willing to put in the time to nourish a primary relationship, friends with benefit can serve a wonderful purpose of sexual fulfillment without the energy drain of dating.
Yet if she really is looking for ‘the One’ I have seen time and time again as a coach for 15 years that it weakens her commitment, focus, standards and willingness to do her deep inner work to attract her most ideal mate.
I remember meeting Florence Henderson at a charity event and she concurred, “The most important thing a woman can do for her self esteem is LOVE BEING ALONE.”
Friends with benefits allow you to never face deep internal issues that are most commonly in the way of attracting a deep profound relationship.
“Friends with benefits” do change as time goes on for one partner, yet rarely both. Even though the women thinks this is not going to hook her heart, sex is sex and should HE be the one to move on first, it will hurt.
The best case scenario should you choose to engage in “friends with benefits” is to keep the lines of communication open so that as one or both partners shift, no one’s feelings get hurt AND when it’s time to really manifest ‘the One’, book a series of sessions with a top notch relationship coach to release the past, heal your heart, get clear on what you want and focused on the lifestyle and life experiences you desire.>