7 Things You Must Do for YOU After a Breakup, Part 1
1. Express Your Anger
I was ashamed of being angry. Angry people are bad. Anger scared me. I hated angry people that made me afraid… I certainly was not going to be an angry person, and if I get angry, won’t I attract negative circumstances to my life? I don’t want anyone to know I’m actually angry… I’m better than that, beyond that. I’m spiritual.
What a bunch of bull I was believing that was ruining my life and holding back my healing!
Anger just is.
And it’s normal and natural.
Projecting it harms others… true.
Suppressing it creates depression and illness… true.
So what are we to do?
Release it with gusto, in a healthy way. I LOVE holding space for clients to finally say what they’ve been waiting YEARS to say! I see it like the anger talking. Not the limitless nature of who they are, like the stuck energy expressing so as to be released forever, acknowledged so as to be deleted, awareness so as to make another choice.
When we’ve been through a breakup, whether we chose it or it happened to us… Something in the relationship most likely peeved you. That’s okay… if you express it fully in a way that harms no one, including you, something miraculous happens to the energy: it leaves a deposit, a lesson, a gift.
Be willing to express it all, release all judgment of all the limitless ways you can be, be curious and embracing of what this experience wants to share with you.
Did you betray your values?
Did you settle and live in denial?
Did you withhold your truth?
Did you project instead of taking 100% responsibility?
Did you judge instead of be in empowered awareness?
Create a safe space to let ‘er rip and release what’s poisoning you, in a way that will fuel the next relationship you have in the most positive delicious ways.
The choice is yours.