When men are shut down, what do you do?
Ladies, when we flirt with ourselves, when we adore our body, when we have pleasure being alive, walking, eating, talking, feeling the breeze, feeling the sunshine penetrate us… really be open and receive the pleasure of being in our body… men FEEL it… they want to BE with us, touch us, give us pleasure. When we’re disconnected it’s like they’re searching in the dark, with no guarantee for a win and they become hesitant with us… which puts us MORE into our masculine and even LESS attractive.
This is how we bring the best out in our men, first be alive enjoying our sensual nature, then inviting them to bring us even more pleasure and praising all they do that makes us happy.
Men who are shut down may be super stressed with work where they feel they are ‘losing’ and don’t want you to think they are a ‘loser.’ We as women might not have shown verbal, physical or emotional gratitude for their efforts in the past so they stopped trying.
Communication is key as you explore reconnecting with them… not a long talk, not “we need to talk”, just letting him know how much you appreciate him, touching him, smiling, letting him know how he contributes to your life, that you’re so lucky to have him in your life… see if it opens him up to become more affectionate.
If something big IS on his mind and he just can’t let it go, I don’t recommend you become therapist for it takes you out of lover energy into mentor energy, even mother energy and that’s bound to destroy chemistry quick. Let him know how amazing you know he is and if something’s bugging him, all the best in business and sports have coaches and suggest me or someone good you know. Perhaps my Scoring a Relationship product will encourage him to love you the way you want to be loved… more than gifts… experiences that deepen intimacy, connection, sizzle and heart. Just don’t disconnect, let him know you care even in a silent hug.
Men’s hearts are huge. Just like ours. Kindness is such a soothing balm. Be the invitation, patience, kind, luscious and welcoming… soften and open. This is who you already are.
Allana Pratt ~ Scoring a Relationship