Stay or Go? The man or woman who isn’t willing to commit.
Both male and female clients come to me asking what they can do to make their partner commit to them. Stay or go?
They ask what they’re doing wrong that won’t make the person they’re dating commit to an exclusive relationship or marriage? What’s wrong with them that this person doesn’t see their value and want to spend the rest of their lives with them?
No really. Nothing. I mean maybe you have bad breath or maybe they’re just using you for your money…but realistically, it’s not you.
It’s not a match on some level and you just don’t want to face it.
Most clients KNOW their beloved isn’t into long term relationships, they KNOW the apple of their eye isn’t as committed as they are, they KNOW in their heart of hearts that this person won’t commit.
And yet that part of them (very much like the young part of me that wants my Daddy to acknowledge me)… a part of them is somehow addicted to the struggle of getting the attention and affection they are longing for… since childhood. This subconscious part of them thinks… if I can get THIS person to see me, acknowledge me, choose me… THEN I’m enough. Then I’ll have proven I am worthy. Then I’ll know for sure I’m of value.
Yet it never happens.
For that needy part of them only knows neediness, and will always attract someone who won’t commit.
And the needy part of them will always get to prove it’s right, that they are not enough. And so the destructive cycle continues…
Unless you knock it off. Unless you do your inner work to heal that needy part of you. Unless you fall madly in love with you NOW. Don’t require anyone to say diddly squat about your worthiness and you start creating a kick ass life NOW and from fullness, choose someone who honors you, respects you, adores you and chooses to hang with you full time cuz your lives are better together!
Waaaaaay easier said than done. But possible. I’ve seen it over and over.
The pain of letting go of one who doesn’t value you is actually your ticket to freedom. Face that. Shift that. And you’re unstoppable, sexy as hell and home free… free from unhappy relationships forever more. I’d love to facilitate this transformation. Yet only call if you’re truly ready, truly coachable, truly won’t defend your point of view until the cows come home, truly are ready for change… for then we cantruly create magic.
You honestly ARE magnificent. Already. Promise. Call me and let’s begin.
EMAIL firstname.lastname@example.org and say you’re ready for your 30 minute complementary session offered to everyone who joins my Membership Community. What if you stopped waiting and connected with me today?>