Sexy Presents to Get Your Lover
By Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt
One of the biggest mistakes couples make is to expect sex. It turns this pleasurable gift into an obligation. Resentment begins, tit for tat score keeping begins or an overall disconnection or numbness occurs in intimacy… just ‘going through the motions’ or thinking about the grocery list or golf game.
One of the best ways to stay connected sexually is to expand your gift giving into a world of foreplay, sensual talking and sexy presents that appreciate your lover OUTSIDE the bedroom, building mystery and tension for when you DO make love again.
1. For Her: Buy her Femme Fatale Lingerie:
Does your woman tend to buy functional lingerie before investing in special occasion items that bring out her wild side? Figure out her size, order 2-3 items and invite her to embrace her Femme Fatale… with a card that says… “You are the most amazing, hot, sexy, gorgeous lover a man could ever dream of. Enjoy.”
2. For Him: Sensual Video:
Let’s say you receive a gift on your doorstep, once you figure out that it’s a SEXY gift… put on your video camera and SHOW him how you open it, get excited, receive it, delight and moan about his gift! If its lingerie, press pause, put it on (or let him watch!) and do a sensual dance for him. If you’re unsure about technology, get some guidance so as to be sure this video is private, not posted to YouTube or FB! Promise you sister – once you do this for your man, you will start receiving WAY more gifts….
3. For Her: Buy & Read her an Erotic Story:
I am currently writing my first Erotic Novel… yet until it debuts, would you be willing to read her something like 50 Shades of Grey? Would you be willing to find out her sexual fantasies and read them to her, while in the bubble bath or in bed once the kids are down? Allowing our partner to see us get turned on is courageous, vulnerable and Oh So Hot.
4. For Him: Naughty Notes Everywhere:
In his toiletry bag on a business trip, in his briefcase, in his drawers of boxers, even in his gym bag tucked away in a show, put a sticky note being as appreciative or naughty as you desire. Tell him his biceps make you juicy, that his voice makes you melt, that taking out the trash makes you swoon, that you’re a sure thing tonight…if he dares.
5. For You Both: VIP Pass into your World of Fantasy:
Many lovers are timid to tell their partner their TRUE fantasy, yet unfortunately the news breaks when the other’s secret is busted, he’s been watching porn, she’s been reading erotica. Instead, give your partner a VIP Pass into your Mind… create a date night where you answer the question… Tell me something about you and your sexual fantasies. Neither party can respond with anything other than Thank you, which means I hear you, not that I agree or am going to do anything about it, just that I hear you. Then the fantasies that work for both of you… enjoy as your intimate relationships deepens.
*Remember if you hear something you don’t like or feel insecure about, don’t take it personally and work through it with a counselor or coach. I am committed to helping people dissolve all sexual shame, guilt or judgment of self and other. You may end up deciding to try Tantra or Intimacy Sessions with a guide to take your relationship to the next level of freedom and connection.
6. For You Both: Spontaneous Night Away:
Everyone recommends this, yet how many times have you done it? Depending on your kids baseball practice or a work presentation… spontaneous will look different for each couple, yet an unplanned, unexpected, unbridled passionate spontaneous getaway is a great present with a high ROI. It’s more than just sex, it’s saying your intimacy matters, that life isn’t happening to you… you’re CREATING your sensual fulfillment. There’s a reason they call it a second honeymoon…>