Archive for Questions and Answers – Page 5

I’m Single, Where’s My MAN

Q: I am so sick and tired of being single! All of my friends are in a relationship. I want a man, now!
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How to Deal With a Self-Destructive Sibling

Q: My sister had the ideal life. The one women DREAM of having! A beautiful house, a loving husband, great kids, everything! In an instant she gave it all up to move back home and live with our mother! Who does that?! She cheated on her husband so he would leave her. She sent her kids to live with our mom and now she just spends all of her time running the streets with our cousins. She is only 38 so I don’t think it is a midlife crisis but you are the expert Allana. What is her deal?
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Should I Walk Down the Aisle or Run Out the Door?

Q: Allana, I’m recently engaged and I absolutely loved my diamond ring from my fiance until the diamond fell out! Who goes cheap on an engagement ring? I’m not expecting a 4 carat diamond or something insane like that but if he cared this little to put effort into find me a real ring instead of this Walmart piece of crap, what does that say about our future?
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Handling the Uncertainty of a Career Change

Q: Allana, my husband is determine to find a better job than what he has now but he is the primary financial support in the family. I want to be supportive but I’m scared. His job may find out and maybe he’ll be fired. How can I give my mind a little peace?
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Are Some Secrets Better Left Untold?

Q: Coach Allana, when you have kept a secret from somebody for almost 25 years, is there any point of telling them? You see, about 25 years ago, I slept with the woman my brother was in love with. We never told him and luckily things didn’t work out but lately he says she was the one that got away and always wondered what happened to her. Should I tell him?
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Handling The Disaster Known As Your Love Life

Q: Allana, I just recently discovered you on YouTube and I’m doing some soul searching, and getting marriage advice on a lot of topics. You see I have been married 10 years. My husband and I have a three year old. We’ve always been very close but after we had our son, my desire for sex went way down. I have no desire at all. My husband, on the other hand, can’t go more than 72 hours without sex. I don’t even like to pleasure myself. The only way I can actually get in the mood is drinking or looking at erotic pictures and both of those situations are not healthy. I have fallen out of love with my husband and feel like I am just going through the motions. I’m a stay at home mom but not by choice. I was thankful to stay on a home when he was a baby but now that he is three, I need a job and interaction with adults on a daily basis; however, the cost of daycare makes it impossible for me to go back to work. I’m extremely jealous of my husband’s ability to get up every day and be with adults. I’m 100% dependent on him because his job doesn’t allow me to be able to work. He gets really paranoid if I want to go out and be with my girlfriends. He only wants to go out with me, he doesn’t have any buddies. I’m stuck in a rut and I need some legit help finding out who I am and why I feel this way.
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