Q: My mother is really sick and while I am coping with the potential of losing her, I find myself pulling away from others. She has only been given a few more weeks and each day is agony and a reminder that eventually, losing people will be the norm. Is there a better way of accepting this than shutting everyone out?
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Q: When do you know you have reached the point of being all in or releasing a relationship? You see, my boyfriend and I have been together since high school and then 7 years this June. Part of me feels like we stayed together more for familiarity and security more than anything else. We were each other’s first for everything and our families are waiting to hear the wedding bells. I just don’t know if he is my “forever” love. How do you know?
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Q: When is it going to far that your compromise who you are just to fit in? There are a group of mothers on my street that remind me of the cool girls in high school. The few times they have invited me in, I find myself speaking poorly about people I care about so I am seen as “one of them”.
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Q: Allana, I often find myself torn between the desire to respect the privacy of my partner and our relationship and the desire to share relationship problems with my close friends so I can get advice. Which is more important?
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Q: Allana, making new friends as an adult is hard for me but given I am about to relocate for my job, it is becoming an absolute must. I meet plenty of people at work or volunteering at events but I find it difficult to push beyond those pleasant, superficial interactions to actual friendship. I’m constantly worried I’ll appear to desperate for people’s friendship and the result will be that I come off as completely unapproachable. So how do I make new friends without coming off too strong.
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Q: My husband and I want to try to be more adventurous is our sex life – starting with sex in public places. I am on board but I am also self conscious. How can I be more free and more experimental?

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