Archive for For Couples – Page 4

Helping Women Achieve An Orgasm

I am not a PHD yet I have gone from not even knowing I had a clitoris or what it was… to being multi-orgasmic and ejaculatory… and I have supported my female clients in going from non- orgasmic to orgasmic, or orgasmic to ejaculatory. Read More →

Question: My family and friends keep trying to set me up with men

Question: Most of my family and friends keep trying to set me up with men… Am I wrong for being so picky this late in life? For working so much?

Answer: I’m not into right or wrong, love, just what works for you, what makes you happy! If not having dating as a priority and instead having work as a priority is what makes you happy, then no issues! If you are lonely, want to be married or in a committed relationship yet you are unwilling to take actions in that direction, then we have some talking to do!

If your friends and family keep trying to set you up with men, they seem to be wanting to make you happy, yet it probably feels like judging you for being single, which doesn’t feel good, so you deflect, defend and keep working, huh?

Perhaps you could tell them to lay off in a nice way, or perhaps you could just receive their suggestions with allowance, perhaps you could all sit down and put your profile online and they could be your dating ‘staff’, and go through tons of men while you enjoy working and organize all your dates for you! ha! What feels best to you?

And about the picky part. Is your picky a strategy to never open your heart, risk rejection and thus stay busy and single? Or are you picky because you’re so hard on yourself, perhaps a perfectionist (which is impossible, nobody’s perfect, we are all works of art in progress) and thus expecting perfection from a man? Is being picky a clever survival mechanism never to show up and enjoy deep vulnerable intimate love because you got hurt last time you did that?

I’d honestly like to have a strategy session with you to get to the heart of the matter. I have several clients who say they want a relationship yet either their heart is still wounded, they aren’t taking actions, they are taking ineffective (or counter productive or downright offensive) actions and don’t even know it. So in a short amount of time, we could get you clarity, freedom and joy about who you are, where you are, what you want and what’s in the way… to create more delicious ease and yummy joy in your world. Sound good?

If that sounds like an effective, efficient and supportive next step with this issue, I would love to connect with you. I’m grateful for your question. I would be honored to support you in being happier. Contact my staff at: and request a one time discounted strategy session (for new clients only) and let’s create some miracles, beautiful woman.

Great Love,


Does Technology change how we do Relationships?

Regardless of technology, what will never change is the importance of intimacy as a foundation for a thriving relationship. I can’t make love to a phone. Nothing beats being in the presence of someone who doesn’t judge you and is vulnerably authentic with you. Yum. Read More →

Do you compare your present relationship to your past one?

We’re all about the top 10 restaurants, or the best wines, or the most affordable luxury travel excursions… and yet we’re not supposed to compare our relationship to our last relationship?

It’s almost impossible, if you ask me… yet that’s not a bad thing!

It’s a super way to be grateful for what you have Perhaps your last partner didn’t cook and now you’re making amazing meals! Or they did cook yet now you get to enjoy more restaurants or expand your cooking skills… see how no matter what you had, or have now, you can always be
grateful. And if what you have now TOTALLY doesn’t work for you, then change it or bless and release the relationship!

One area to be aware of that is detrimental to a healthy relationship is comparing out loud, verbally, in a judgmental way to your partner. Big no no. It hurts. Especially in the sexual department. “My old lover used to…” “Why don’t you xyz?” Ouch.

Something I learned from Dr. Dain of Access in our DVD, Your Delicious Body, is to destroy and un-create your relationship each day. What? Destroy it? Aren’t you supposed to try to stay together? I get it! What he means is to destroy all the judgments you have of one another. Like letting today go.  Wiping the slate clean to see them fresh and new the next day. Not expecting them to be a certain way but being open with delight to the unexpected. Not holding grudges for the past, and being open to asking for what works for you moment to moment.

I really don’t believe one person is meant to fulfill all your needs. So to eliminate the frustration of not getting your needs met and comparing your partner to a past partner, which is totally unkind… why not ask, what would it take for me to have xyz with ease? And be open to it arriving in a multitude of ways, in a way you could never have figured out on your own!

Then you get to have all your needs met, AND be grateful for your partner with ease which tends to make things steamy and delicious on the home front!

And if having your needs met in a multitude of ways doesn’t work for your partner, then perhaps your partner is now willing to step up or realize that you’re going to fulfill your bliss not matter what and learns to give you more space to soar… so much is possible when you allow yourself to be ALL of you. Let me know if I can support YOUR specific situation and facilitate the change required for you to be deliciously happy right away!

Let’s connect! Lusciously yours, Allana xoxoxo

Stay or Go? The man or woman who isn’t willing to commit.

Enjoying the sunshine between clients-interviews! Thank you Universe!Both male and female clients come to me asking what they can do to make their partner commit to them. Stay or go?

They ask what they’re doing wrong that won’t make the person they’re dating commit to an exclusive relationship or marriage? What’s wrong with them that this person doesn’t see their value and want to spend the rest of their lives with them?


No really. Nothing. I mean maybe you have bad breath or maybe they’re just using you for your money…but realistically, it’s not you.

It’s not a match on some level and you just don’t want to face it.

Most clients KNOW their beloved isn’t into long term relationships, they KNOW the apple of their eye isn’t as committed as they are, they KNOW in their heart of hearts that this person won’t commit.

And yet that part of them (very much like the young part of me that wants my Daddy to acknowledge me)… a part of them is somehow addicted to the struggle of getting the attention and affection they are longing for… since childhood. This subconscious part of them thinks… if I can get THIS person to see me, acknowledge me, choose me… THEN I’m enough. Then I’ll have proven I am worthy. Then I’ll know for sure I’m of value.

Yet it never happens.

For that needy part of them only knows neediness, and will always attract someone who won’t commit.

And the needy part of them will always get to prove it’s right, that they are not enough. And so the destructive cycle continues…

Unless you knock it off. Unless you do your inner work to heal that needy part of you. Unless you fall madly in love with you NOW. Don’t require anyone to say diddly squat about your worthiness and you start creating a kick ass life NOW and from fullness, choose someone who honors you, respects you, adores you and chooses to hang with you full time cuz your lives are better together!

Waaaaaay easier said than done. But possible. I’ve seen it over and over.

The pain of letting go of one who doesn’t value you is actually your ticket to freedom. Face that. Shift that. And you’re unstoppable, sexy as hell and home free… free from unhappy relationships forever more. I’d love to facilitate this transformation. Yet only call if you’re truly ready, truly coachable, truly won’t defend your point of view until the cows come home, truly are ready for change… for then we cantruly create magic.

You honestly ARE magnificent. Already. Promise. Call me and let’s begin.

EMAIL and say you’re ready for your 30 minute complementary session offered to everyone who joins my Membership Community. What if you stopped waiting and connected with me today?

I don’t understand her, why doesn’t she understand me?

Feeling SUNsational waiting for Kelly in TopangaI’m not a super pro at this, yet one of my favorite people to help understand communication styles is my friend Larry Michel of Match Matrix who explains communication styles way better than me! xoxo

Yet the gist of it is some of us are more emotional in our nature, love the art of weaving a story, get very passionate about things and truly the act of being heard can be healing and deepening for intimacy. The other main style seems to be more direct in nature, to the point, logical and clear where it’s confusing when someone doesn’t get to the point, or weaves a story into who knows where and deep healing connection is found more in touch, or sex, or shared experiences instead of the actual words. Read More →