He Wants a Small Army and I am Done with Kids. HELP!

Q:  Allana, for the past two years, I’ve been dating someone. He really wants more kids, but I don’t. What should I do?

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What are Ways to Keep a Long Distance Relationship Alive?

In the past, I hosted (in my third DVD for The Sinclair Institute) one of the foremost sex educators online.

They certainly have many ‘tools’ to support you on your own side of the world to spice up phone sex.

Yet here is what has worked for my clients, videos. I wouldn’t recommend posting them on youtube of course, not even on ‘private’… and I wouldn’t recommend sending something overtly sexual unless you completely trust your partner… and yet one client did a two part video series for her man.

First he had sent her a package of lingerie. She opened it ‘on camera’ expressing her joy and teasing him to what was coming next…

Then she created a video of her dancing for him in several of the pieces… with a strip tease at the end.

He LOVED it and their texts got HOT, their emails more intimate… and a certain Skype ‘date’ very erotic.

What underlies all these solutions is the commitment to stay connected emotionally, sexually and intimately when your partner is away.

Remember just cuz you’re not IN bed with your partner each night, to still ‘hold space’ and stay connected. Distance can make the heart grow fonder…

I Think He Has Fallen Out of Love. How Can I tell?

You asked, “Allana, how do I know if he has fallen out of love with me?”

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Should Loving Someone Be This Hard?


In this video I speak on how love IS going to take work! I give you tips on what efforts are important for a great relationship. I also explain how relationships can fail. I also address how you know where you are in your relationship and how to trust your intuitive wisdom.

If you want a better body, you go to the gym. You want to keep a plant alive? You water it! That Disney fairytale of finding the right one and everything will be bliss thereafter is “B.S.” There’s nothing wrong if there’s problems.

How much effort should you put in? What does a plant get on a daily basis? A plant gets sunshine, water, pruning, paying it attention. All these things make a plant thrive. They are also needed for a relationship to thrive.

Both partners should be willing to do the work. I’ve seen where one partner puts in most of the effort while the other puts only about 50%. That could work out. The one time where it won’t work is if one partner is putting forth 100% and the other 0%.

How do you know where you are? Trust your intuitive wisdom. You know where this relationship is. If you can’t trust your truth, have a professional like me help hold your space and go through this with you. Oh, the empowerment and excitement of what’s really possible!

YOU have the power to create anything that you desire!

Huge delicious erotic sensual love now and expanding forevermore, Allana

What Are Ways To Spice Up My Marriage and My Sex Life?

You asked Coach Allana, “How can I become more into my sex life and make my hubby happy?”
Improve Sex Life in Marriage

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How Do You Bring Up Sex Casually?

You asked, “Allana, How soon in a relationship should you talk about sex, baby?”
When to talk about babies

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