Had a Miscarriage. Feel Ashamed and Alone

Q: Allana, I recently had a miscarriage. It was very early in the pregnancy and I never told my boyfriend I was even pregnant. I feel so alone and ashamed. I’m too embarrassed to say anything now but each day is it getting harder as I go through this alone. I’ve never lost anyone – not my parents, grandparents, pets and I feel as if this is all my fault. Do you have any advice to help someone like me or am I a lost cause?

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I Want Kids, He Doesn’t

Q: My husband and I are about to celebrate our 10 year anniversary. For a decade, it has just been the two of us which has been great but I am starting to feel an emptiness. We talked about getting a pet but I think I want to add children. Neither of us wanted kids before but things change, people change, I changed. How do ease someone into a conversation like that?

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Somatic Sexual Wholeness

I wanted to share this amazing journey with you.

This 3 part-series of articles was just published in Elephant Journal about Somatic Sexual Wholeness. The author very courageously shares her journey of reclaiming her sexuality and beyond, the spirit of her heart.

I am truly amazed and extremely humbled by her journey, and so grateful that she chose to write about it with such rawness and transparency.

I hope by reading this, you are as inspired and transformed as I have been.

Part one: https://www.elephantjournal.com/2017/07/the-unconventional-therapy-that-got-me-back-in-the-sex-game/
Part two: https://www.elephantjournal.com/2017/07/how-yoni-massage-helped-me-heal-from-generational-trauma-shame-adult/
Part three: https://www.elephantjournal.com/2017/07/one-truth-about-owning-our-sexuality-we-can-all-benefit-from-adult/

All my love,

Can’t Seem to Walk Away

Q: Allana, I can not seem to escape this cycle of a toxic relationship that I’m in. We break up, he calls, I go running back. We break up, I call, he comes running back. We can’t see to quit each other but we are terrible together. We fight, mostly words, but I did slap him once. We are just so wrong for each but in the moments we are together, it feels right. We just can’t walk away – how do I finally walk away?

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He Wants to Cut Me Off From More Kids!

Yet another amazing question from the wonderful men and woman at the Good Men Project.

Q: I want more children and my husband’s a vasectomy. Who has the power to make the final decision?

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Am I Getting the Brush-off?

A favorite from my Good Men Project series:

Q: I have been dating a great girl lately but she has been working late and she has not been returning my texts. When she does return my text she says she just got them but I know she carries her phone on her all the time. Is she giving me the brush off? What did I do wrong?

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