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Wife and I No Longer Share a Bed

Q: Allana, I am worried.  My wife and I are no longer sharing a bed.  She told me that it was because she was having trouble sleeping. The thing is, we have always shared a bed! Am I missing a red flag? Is something wrong?

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No Money Talk!

Q: My husband and I differ completely when it comes to money. He wants to talk about it and I don’t! I have heard the number one fight between couples is money. How do I get him to understand we don’t share the same views.

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Can’t Communicate With Husband

Q: My husband and I have two different styles of communicating and fight all the time. How do we skip the frustration and learn to just talk to each other?

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Need Space From Mother-in-Law

Q: My wife’s mother won’t give us space! When she comes to visit, she doesn’t know how to go home. My wife enjoys her visits but I want my house back! There is no way to win here so I am mostly venting to you Allana; but, if you know something I don’t – please tell me!

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Role Shift. Now I’m The Breadwinner

Q: My partner and I have shifted roles in our marriage.  He has been the breadwinner for the past nine years but recently stepped down to pursue a different career.  Now, I am the breadwinner; however, I now feel like I shouldn’t have to play maid, chef, lover, therapist to him when he is home. He always wanted me to understand his space when he was working but now he expects me to be the loving wife even though I’m supporting us as well. Any thoughts?

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Wife’s Nephew Died – How Do I Be There For Her?

Q: Allana, my wife recently had a family member pass away in a tragic accident. My issue is due to the manner of which the family member died, it was a troubling situation gone terribly wrong and he was shot and killed. I am having a hard time providing comfort without sounding bias or disconnected. I didn’t know the kid. He was only 19, but she is taking it every hard. How can I be there for her when I can’t empathize with her.

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