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Should Loving Someone Be This Hard?


In this video I speak on how love IS going to take work! I give you tips on what efforts are important for a great relationship. I also explain how relationships can fail. I also address how you know where you are in your relationship and how to trust your intuitive wisdom.

If you want a better body, you go to the gym. You want to keep a plant alive? You water it! That Disney fairytale of finding the right one and everything will be bliss thereafter is “B.S.” There’s nothing wrong if there’s problems.

How much effort should you put in? What does a plant get on a daily basis? A plant gets sunshine, water, pruning, paying it attention. All these things make a plant thrive. They are also needed for a relationship to thrive.

Both partners should be willing to do the work. I’ve seen where one partner puts in most of the effort while the other puts only about 50%. That could work out. The one time where it won’t work is if one partner is putting forth 100% and the other 0%.

How do you know where you are? Trust your intuitive wisdom. You know where this relationship is. If you can’t trust your truth, have a professional like me help hold your space and go through this with you. Oh, the empowerment and excitement of what’s really possible!

YOU have the power to create anything that you desire!

Huge delicious erotic sensual love now and expanding forevermore, Allana

Desperately Need Space from Girlfriend

Q: My girlfriend is smothering me and when I bring it up, she gets defensive.  What gives?

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Need Space From Mother-in-Law

Q: My wife’s mother won’t give us space! When she comes to visit, she doesn’t know how to go home. My wife enjoys her visits but I want my house back! There is no way to win here so I am mostly venting to you Allana; but, if you know something I don’t – please tell me!

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Role Shift. Now I’m The Breadwinner

Q: My partner and I have shifted roles in our marriage.  He has been the breadwinner for the past nine years but recently stepped down to pursue a different career.  Now, I am the breadwinner; however, I now feel like I shouldn’t have to play maid, chef, lover, therapist to him when he is home. He always wanted me to understand his space when he was working but now he expects me to be the loving wife even though I’m supporting us as well. Any thoughts?

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She Is Asking for Space

It’s finally happened.  She said it.  You are still trying to wrap your head around it.  What does it mean?  Why did she say it?  Does she really need it…”space”.  Things were going great, this is completely out of nowhere, or is it?

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Should LOVE be such hard work?


In this video I speak on how love IS going to take work! I give you tips on what efforts are important for a great relationship. I also explain how relationships can fail. I also address how you know where you are in your relationship and how to trust your intuitive wisdom.

If you want a better body, you go to the gym. You want to keep a plant alive? You water it! That Disney fairytale of finding the right one and everything will be bliss thereafter is “B.S.” There’s nothing wrong if there’s problems.

How much effort should you put in? What does a plant get on a daily basis? A plant gets sunshine, water, pruning, paying it attention. All these things make a plant thrive. They are also needed for a relationship to thrive.

Both partners should be willing to do the work. I’ve seen where one partner puts in most of the effort while the other puts only about 50%. That could work out. The one time where it won’t work is if one partner is putting forth 100% and the other 0%.

How do you know where you are? Trust your intuitive wisdom. You know where this relationship is. If you can’t trust your truth, have a professional like me help hold your space and go through this with you. Oh, the empowerment and excitement of what’s really possible!

YOU have the power to create anything that you desire!

Huge delicious erotic sensual love now and expanding forevermore, Allana