Q: I’m a 39 year old male from the UK who has never really had a break with women. In fact, the last girlfriend I had was when I was 23. I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s just not meant to be after my lack of any relationship took me down the path of a suicide attempt and complete breakdown back in 2012. I got counseling for this in 2013 and have been getting by ever since on my own but being single still hurts me nearly every day. I’m worried that it may drive me back towards how I felt in 2012 and having seen some of your videos, you give some really good advice. Could you please give me some pointers on how I might alter my approach to understanding that I won’t meet anyone and have to deal with that, so that I might come to terms with the situation? Most people tell me it’ll happen eventually but it’s now been 16 years that I’ve been single and I would rather just learn how to come to terms with it.
Q: Coach Allana, I am losing control and unlike the song, I don’t like it. I supervise a bunch of adults that act like children. The place that I am renting is being sold AND my girlfriend just told me she wants a break. One more straw and this camel’s back is a goner. Why is my life spiraling like this?
Q: I know I am being impatient but I am tired of being single. I am so desperate to be with someone that I would be willing to take anyone right now! Why am I like this?