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Accepting that I Will Always Be Single

Q:  I’m a 39 year old male from the UK who has never really had a break with women. In fact, the last girlfriend I had was when I was 23. I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s just not meant to be after my lack of any relationship took me down the path of a suicide attempt and complete breakdown back in 2012. I got counseling for this in 2013 and have been getting by ever since on my own but being single still hurts me nearly every day. I’m worried that it may drive me back towards how I felt in 2012 and having seen some of your videos, you give some really good advice. Could you please give me some pointers on how I might alter my approach to understanding that I won’t meet anyone and have to deal with that, so that I might come to terms with the situation? Most people tell me it’ll happen eventually but it’s now been 16 years that I’ve been single and I would rather just learn how to come to terms with it.

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My Life is Spiraling Out of Control. Help!

Q: Coach Allana, I am losing control and unlike the song, I don’t like it. I supervise a bunch of adults that act like children. The place that I am renting is being sold AND my girlfriend just told me she wants a break. One more straw and this camel’s back is a goner. Why is my life spiraling like this?

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Too Desperate for Love

Q: I know I am being impatient but I am tired of being single. I am so desperate to be with someone that I would be willing to take anyone right now! Why am I like this?

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Parents Fighting the Reason For Being Single?

Question: My parents fought a lot when I was younger and I feel that created a block in me. How can I move past this hangup? Could this be the reason why I remain single? Read More →

Dating for over 40’s- What Boomers are looking for in a Relationships

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I’m 46 and feel the sexiest of my entire life. OK, at least most of the time. Last trip to Maui I got triggered by a 20 yr. old cellulite stretch mark wrinkle free babe at the beach and considered moving back to join the blue haired bingo girls and getting wasted.

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Empty Nester Feeling So Alone

Q: I thought I would feel such freedom when my 18 year old left home but I have never felt so alone. I was so focused on him, raising him as a single mom that now I do not know how to “do me”.

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