Archive for relationships

Surrounded By Negativity Snuffing out Positive Light

Q: Allana, I need a little guidance and a lot of patience. My mother has been staying with us for awhile due to a pipe burst in her home. I love her but she complains about EVERYTHING all the time. I try to counter it by telling her to be grateful in hopes that it will get her to stop but she says she is complaining to herself and keeps talking. It is such an energy drainer! I don’t want to be rude but it is starting to take a toll on my positive attitude. The one that took me years to achieve thanks to you and your videos. Can you work your magic and help me through this please?

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So Much Trauma, Yet You Go! How?

Q: Ms. Allana, I think you are absolutely radiant. For someone who has gone through as much as you have, you simply glow. As a PA (Physician’s Assistant), I have seen how stress, frustration, and life in general can erode a person’s appearance. What is your secret? Read More →

Unacquainted Love for 15 Years. Time to Let Go?

Q: 39 year old female here with a question for you Allana. I have been in love with my business partner since the day we met. He’s single but has always expressed that he only wants to be committed to his business and his career. We have been working side by side for 15 years now and we fight like an old married couple. There was one night where I thought we were gonna cross the line to something more but the phone rang and by the time he got back he was so frustrated from the call he just said “Good Night” and left. Nothing since. I never brought it up again but I always wondered what could have or would have been if that stupid phone hadn’t rang! I will be 40 next month. I don’t want to keep waiting and dreaming of what could be but I don’t want to destroy our working relationship either. Which one do I choose, business or pleasure? Read More →

As an Intimacy Expert, is Dating Harder? Easier?

Q: Allana, as an intimacy relationship coach, do you find meeting and dating more difficult or easier. Are you currently in a relationship? If so, does your partner feel they are on equal grounds due to your knowledge versus their life experiences? Just curious.

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Don’t Call, Don’t Text, Facebook is OK!

So many questions come from your beautiful souls. Thank you for your vulnerability.

Q:  Ma’am, I need your help. I love a girl and we were very close to one another but suddenly she’s become very cold and distanced herself from me. She told me that she is going to change her number and that she can’t give me her new number but she asked me to text her on Facebook. What do I do? Help me?

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My Father is Gay, My Mother is Devastated.

Another question from the beautiful men at The Good Men Project.

Q:  Allana, my father just told me he is gay. I don’t care, I love him for being honest with himself; but, my mother, she is devastated. She keeps blaming herself and says she doesn’t know how to live her life without my father. What can I do?

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