Q: Allana, there may not be an answer but I’m gonna ask anyway. I’m in love with a man who is only with me because I remind him of his girlfriend that passed away unexpectedly a few years ago. I know this isn’t healthy. Am I preventing him from moving on. Is he using me to in a way to keep her memory alive?
Q: Allana, everyone but me knew I was still in love with my ex. By the time I realized it, it was too late and he had met someone else. We have gone through so much together and I know if I just told him how I felt we would be together again. I am the one that ended it. I am the one that broke his heart but the things I care about then just don’t matter now. What should I do?
Q: After 40 years of marriage, my husband finally tells me he was actually interested in my sister. She just so happened to not be home that day so he settled for me for company. 40 years later and I find out I am second choice. What do I do with this information? Do I let it go? He told me as a whimsical brush off thinking it was funny since so much time has passed but I just don’t see the humor.
A delicious question from my Good Men Project Audience!
Q: Allana, if one person wants a divorce and the other person doesn’t, what do you do? The marriage is clearly over but the husband just won’t let go and move on.
So often we fall prey to the lusciousness of the relationships we see in movies and on television.
The intensity, the passion, the chase, and finally the union.
The question is, what happens when those who see these relationships look for them in reality?
Even bigger question, what if these relationship were real?
Would they be as beautiful, wonderful, magical or would we see a fourth wall that is often ignored?
I had the pleasure of tackling this sensational question with the delicious Sara Nachlis of Girlboss.
In her article, 10 Relationships In Pop Culture That Were Actually Toxic AF, I join fellow love and relationships coaches and really tackle the rawness of some of the most renown television relationships: Ross and Rachel, Carrie and Big, and a few others. Check it out and let me know what you think.
All my love,