Archive for Questions and Answers

Don’t Want to Hide My Friends

Q: Before I was married, all of my friends were male.  I don’t know – I just connect with the better.  That is how my husband and I met.  Now that we are married, he has an issue with my guy friends. His point of view – as long as he doesn’t know they exist, I can have them in my life. That just doesn’t seem right to me. I try to honor him by making sure all my friends are female but I don’t know if he is in the wrong telling me to hide it or if I should be ashamed for considering male friends?

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Turning it Off and On. When to be a Noble and when to be a Badass?

Q: Dear Allana, I am sure you are asked this question a lot but as a man, women are the toughest creatures to figure out! I feel on one hand, a woman wants a man that takes charge (knight in shining armor) but on the other hand, she wants a man who is sensitive to her needs, caring, and emotionally available. How do I find a balance between being her Noble Prince Charming and her best friend?

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Avoiding the Friend Zone

Q: I can not figure out the perfect combination! How can I build the basis of a relationship with a woman without falling into the friend zone?

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Publicly Embarassed by Spouse. What now?

Q: What my husband did to me is beyond forgettable. He publicly humiliated me in front of our family and friends. A week later, he is asking for forgiveness and to come home. I can’t! I just can’t! What should I do?

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Allana, how do you get such divine skin?

Seriously? I felt this wave of embarrassment wash over me when you asked that. Back when I was in dance class in my teens, I had horrible acne on my shoulder and all the acne drugs didn’t work. My Dad was a pharmacist and got me on this simple Sulfa drug and for some reason, it cleaned it all up by graduation, Thank God! Yet I remember not being able to wear a T-shirt in ballet class and KNOWING the girl behind me was grossed out. So humiliating. Read More →

Can’t Pry my Wife Away from Kids for Intimacy

Q: Allana, my wife is incredible. She does so much for our family that I would love to do something for her. Unfortunately, I can’t pry her away from the kids long enough to spend an intimate, relaxing day out by herself. How can I convince her that she needs to take care of herself?

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