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My Father is Gay, My Mother is Devastated.

Another question from the beautiful men at The Good Men Project.

Q:  Allana, my father just told me he is gay. I don’t care, I love him for being honest with himself; but, my mother, she is devastated. She keeps blaming herself and says she doesn’t know how to live her life without my father. What can I do?

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Tiny House versus Stable Marriage

I receive so many questions from my audience at The Good Men Project. Here is another…

Q:  Allana, how do you share a small space with another person without killing them? Seriously, that’s my question. My wife wants to try a tiny house, and I just don’t see how two people can live on top of each other without losing their sh!t.

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Losing My Wife. Is It Too Late?

Wanted to share one of my favorites from The Good Men Project:

Q:  Allana, I don’t know for sure but I think my wife is going to leave me. I will admit, I haven’t been the best husband. And while I have always provided for my family, I have put work before being present. Now that the kids are grown and out of the house, there is so much distance between us. I feel as if I realized this too late and I have lost her. How can I win her back? How can I save my marriage?

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Son’s Asking about Absent Father is Heartbreaking

Q:  Allana, I am trying so hard to be strong for my child but every time my little boy asks me about his father (who isn’t in the picture), my heart breaks. What do I say to him? Why is he asking so much many questions about a person he has never met?

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Need One Lined Up Before I Can Move On

Q:  Coach, I have finally figured out something with the help of a friend of mine. I can’t move on from one girl/woman without meeting another.  I am still hung up on my ex-girlfriend but I realized I only got over the girlfriend before her because of her (and the one before that…) How do I break this cycle of having to replace the old with the new in order to be happy?

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Celebrating the Holidays with a New Girlfriend

Q: What is the sweetest thing a man can do in a new relationship around the holidays that won’t scare off a new girlfriend?

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