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Getting Married Again. Is Fourth Time a Charm?

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Q: In 14 years, I have been married three times. The first marriage only lasted because we had a child. I couldn’t get out of the second fast enough. We won’t even discuss #3. I think I have met husband # 4 but I am guarded. How do I know all of these failed marriages aren’t my fault – what if #4 is already doomed before it even starts?

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What is the Best Way to Share Your Fantasies With a Partner?

Q: I would consider myself a non-vanilla person. The problem is, I don’t know the appropriate way to slip my desires into a conversation. What’s the best way to introduce something sexual in a new dating relationship? Especially because I feel they may be deemed too dirty… threesomes, S&M, sex swinging etc, without scaring the person off?
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I’ve been married 3 times. Is #4 doomed before it even starts?

You asked Allana: In 14 years, I have been married three times. The first marriage only lasted because we had a child. I couldn’t get out of the second fast enough. We won’t even discuss #3. I think I have met husband # 4 but I am guarded. How do I know all of these failed marriages aren’t my fault – what if #4 is already doomed before it even starts?
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Spicing it up for Valentine’s Day

Q: We have been married for 13 years, its our 14 year anniversary on Valentine’s day (the 14th). How can we spice things up this Valentine’s Day?
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Need Help! Want to Introduce Sexual Desires to Partner

Q: I would consider myself a non-vanilla person. The problem is, I don’t know the appropriate way to slip my desires into a conversation. What’s the best way to introduce something sexual in a new dating relationship? Especially because I feel they may be deemed too dirty… threesomes, S&M, sex swinging etc, without scaring the person off?
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